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writes:I love my boyfriend (age 20) a lot. We have been together for 8 months now. However, I feel like hes hiding something from me. it bothers me so much. For example, he never told me that he has a daughter until I confronted him about it. I had to find this out from his ex girlfriend.His ex called me and told me about it. Also, he has cheated on me before, but i gave him a second chance.When i ask questions its either he hangs up on me or tells me that im just starting drama.He rarely answers my calls in the mornings. He can be nice to me one minute and treat me badly the next.When i do something that upsets him i say sorry and try to cheer him up but when i get upset about something that HE did, he just says sorry and acts like he doesn't care. I tried talking to him about the things that bother me but he doesnt listen. His friend listens to me more than he does.I dont know how to make him understand that it hurts me every time he does this. i dont want to let him go because i love him and i care for him. he says that he loves me so much and that i mean everything to him but i dont know..i want to work everything out but i dont know how to. please help
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reader, AnswersNow  +, writes (5 April 2009):
 Catch a wake up girl! Your man has a child he doesn't tell you, he cheats on you and when you call him in the morning he doesn't answer. I think he is elsewhere with someone and can't answer because of that. Break up with him coz u tried talking and it failed so leave and find happiness
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (4 April 2009):
 He has hidden his child from you and already has cheated on you in only 8 months? This relationship has got off to a very bad start and will only go downhill I'm afraid - It wont get better no matter how hard you try!
This guy clearly has no idea of how to behave in a relationship - he lies, cheats and is completely selfish. I cant understand how you have managed to stay with him for 8 months; I would have run a mile when he "forgot" to mention his child!
He cheated on you and has lied to you about major things - but you forgave him because you "love" him (lame excuse!). So he knows he can get away with whatever he wants to do, he has no respect for you because you do not respect yourself. No self-respecting woman would allow a man to do what this guy has done to you, you need to realise that this relationship will never work, and get some courage and leave this guy!
You are putting all the effort into this relationship and he is just coasting along doing what he wants because he knows you will stick around no matter what he does. So prove him wrong - just leave this waste of space and find a real man!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, FroggieGman  +, writes (4 April 2009):
You answered your own question, he doesn't care about you! He is having sex with you, why should he be nice o you. Remenber, the person that cares the least controls the relationship. Sounds to me that his non caring attitude and his deception should be reason enough to dump him. He not being honest with you. You say he cheated before and you took him back. Do you really think he's stopped cheating??? He cares only for his cookies and you are just a recepticle for his penis and sperm.
You are wasting your love, and affection on him. He really could care less for you until he wants sex. Then you are the center of his universe, until he's gotten his cookies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): I dont know if you will be able to work everything out with this man. It sounds to me like he is kinda selfish. And how could you not tell somone that you have a child? I just cant understand that. From what I am reading here it sounds to me like you are putting forth all of the effort here. My advice? Move on and find someone who cares about you more.
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