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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's my best friend and I enjoy spending time with him but lately I am starting to feel like we are just best friends, nothing more. I don't have any sexual feeling towards him and sex often makes me cry. I have broached the subject with him once and he got upset and said he didn't want to lose me. Since then he has made a very conscious effort to be more couply but I still feel exactly the same. I don't know what to do or how to go about explaining it to him. Help?!
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (19 February 2013):
Who do you feel is mostly to "blame". I know that's not the right word, but what I mean by this is, are you responsible for the way you feel because you might be depressed or have some other issues, or do you feel like it's simply because he's not right for you?
If it's simply a matter of falling out of love with him and not being into him any more, there are two solutions. Leave if you don't want to be with him, or give things time to change if you want to stay with him. Falling back into love isn't a quick process.
If you think your mental state might be more to blame, you should look into therapy. It doesn't mean that you are crazy, it just means that you want to better yourself.
Good luck.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 Is it because there is no sexual chemistry or did you have a bad sex experience in the past? The lack of sexual chemistry can't be fixed but if you have to explain something to him so that he can understand. Did you cry because you wished you were more aroused or because there was a trigger of a trauma?
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