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writes:When I first met this girl over a year ago, I asked her out but she told me she has a boyfriend. She was really nice about it though and said we could hang out and be friends. I was ok with that because I just wanted to get to know her.Over the past year we've talked more and more. We don't talk a whole lot because we're both so busy, especially her, but when we see each other we talk. I'm pretty sure she knows I'm interested in her but of course I never make anything of it because she has a boyfriend.I know her boyfriend. He is a really good guy. Me and him are sort of friendsI don't think either of them know that I know they are together.She is a really kind and respectable person.Anyway, how can you tell if a girl that has a boyfriend likes you?(Again, I'm not asking how to make a move on her. She has a boyfriend and I accept that, as hard as it may be)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know what the indicators would be, that's why i'm asking.
She seems to get along with her boyfriend just fine, he's not a bad guy.
She is always asking about my plans and how I'm feeling. She does that every single time I see her. She never breaks eye contact and she smiles. She says a lot of nice things about me. She invites me to go sit with her whether she is alone or with her friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm accepting but what am I going to do? tell her she can't be with him? That's her decision to make and as hard as it may be, I know I have to deal with it. Maybe one day, if the day ever comes I might have a chance with her but for right now she has someone.My concern is knowing whether she likes me just as a friend or more than a friend.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 What kind of indicators of interest have u gotten? Does she break eye contact first? Tap ur foot if u tap it first? If u think shes interested talk to her n find out if shes frustrated with her rltshp. She certainly could be while shes waiting for her guy to step up n end things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm accepting of her relationship because I know I can't change it. What am I suppose to do? tell her I like her and she should leave her boyfriend? It sucks knowing she's with someone else but it's not my decision to make.My concern is if she likes me as just a friend or if she likes me as more than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe did tell me she has a boyfriend but she never told me who her boyfriend is. Her boyfriend hasn't told me that she is his girlfriend. I found out that they are together from their close friends.
I am interested in her, but I would not accept her making a move on me. I would want to, but I wouldn't be able to. She is too good a person and I don't want to be the other guy.
We are not kids with all the time in the world, we are both very busy. We talk almost everyday but it's always while we're working on something. I never want to bother her because she looks like she has time for nothing but she always tells me I'm not bothering her and welcomes me sitting down and talking to her. She asks me about my life, I ask her about hers, we laugh. We don't get much 1 on 1 time because someone else is almost always there with us. Usually her boyfriend or a close friend.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 "I don't think either of them know that I know they are together."
You just said over a year a go the girl told you she has a boyfriend.
You are not going to make a move on her, but if she does, does that mean you will accept it?
If a girl with a boyfriend also likes you, she will not be that busy and make time for you. You will do much more than just talk.
You can both defend your honor and your friendship all you like. When you both have interest in each other and she is attached, you are playing with fire. All it takes is a weak moment.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (24 February 2013):
Well she seems to like you other wise she would not suggest hanging out as friends .But be careful of your feelings because maybe she only likes you as a friend.The question i would ask myself if you are so accepting of her relationship with her boyfriend why are you so concerned about her feelings for you. Thread with care and enjoy her friendship as it is for the time . Best Lluck Nora B.
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