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30-35,
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writes:I have split up with my ex last year due to various reasons. The main one being the long distant which caused so many arguments. But the last year I have had some nagging feeling that is was a mistake.We have been brilliant friends this last year and constantly do stuff together and it has been so nice without the arguing and I think that might be a reason i am getting feelings for her again. We live about a 45mon drive away from each other and have this urge to try get things back up with her. But I don't know if I should.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 October 2014):
 You may work as friends but not romantic partners because we demand more in serious relationships. When you were her boyfriend, you were not constantly doing stuff with her for some reason. It's in my assumption that men need a space to breathe in a relationship and in a long distance relationship, this is hard for a woman to bear. Just being friends, the tension, and the emotional issues causing arguments are removed so you feel relaxed with each other. It's a great feeling when your girlfriend can also be your best friend.
You have to know her side of the story. It would be great if she feels the same way too. If you are really constantly doing stuff together then she's probably not dating other men.
I don't know if getting back is a good idea but one thing you owe yourself is at least knowing how she feels now. Some people feel that once there is a break up, there is a forever rift that damages trust while others feel that a break does miracles for drawing people even closer together. When you know for sure, you can make the decision to be with her, or stop this friendship all together because it's preventing you from getting what you want.
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