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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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What interesting things can I do with a guy at a boring mall?
Q. I'm going on a date with a 23 year old I met online tomorrow afternoon. Now, at 19, this is my first date. I havn't even told him that because I find it so embarrassing. We've planned on meeting at a mall. I'd like some ideas on fun, flirty, ...
A. 30 July 2014: I like walking aimlessly at the mall and obviously you are not like that. Maybe you can just tell him to go bowling instead and afterwards catch a drink at the mall. It is not rude in public to steal a quick kiss. You can find a place in the mall ... (read in full...)
How do I put myself out there to ask this older girl out?
Q. Ok, so i have a few question on how i should do something, and i'm looking for some solid, simple advice. Story: So i'm a junior in high school, and there is a girl i like, who i don't know very well. We've met once, but i felt like she might be...
A. 30 July 2014: You mean in September you are junior and she is senior? I would try to sit beside her on the bus and recall what you both did last time you met. Then ask her what courses she is taking and maybe you could take the same class together. I don't think ... (read in full...)
Help please... does my coworker like me?
Q. I met this guy at work and started working quite closely with him about a month ago. He is a warm, friendly person and helps me out all the time at work. One time because I did something wrong at work, he had to wait for me to fix it for three...
A. 30 July 2014: He likes you. You, like me, are very serious and don't understand jokes well. He is trying to gauge your interest and he interpreted your response as you were not too interested. I would make the move and ask him out. You don't know if you like him ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with a man who is watching the 'teen' category in porn?
Q. As a woman I have no problem with consentually adult material ie porn however I often notice when seeing the categories that teen is always one of them Personally it makes me feel sick and I steer well away from that but maybe I'm overreac...
A. 30 July 2014: All actresses are certified to be over 18 or else it would be child pornography. It's promoted as teen because the word teen conjures up images of innocent school girl. Young enough to be cute and submissive but old enough to do it legal. Most 40 ... (read in full...)
Online dating issues. I want to message him, but what would I say to him now?
Q. I joined an online dating site and met a man and had quite a few dates with him. He wanted to keep his options open, but I caught him out in a lie when he said he was not at a place when he was. Since then he went quiet on me and so I told him he's...
A. 30 July 2014: I won't be an option for 6 months. No you didn't make a mistake. You should keep your word and stop messaging him. He just didn't want to say he's not interested anymore. There is nothing to be sorry about so talking to him again will sound like you ... (read in full...)
I have a gut feeling that something is wrong between her and me. Do you think I am wrong about this?
Q. So I've been dating this girl for a few months now I just have a gut feeling something is wrong. I do have some trust issues and paranoia from past problems but they aren't as bad as they used to be. She's always getting facebook notifications bu...
A. 30 July 2014: A paranoid person will always be preparing for a crisis and looking for a problem that's probably not there. You are not the type to be controlling or tell her to get rid of facebook. that's good. You haven't mention any specific problem, other than ... (read in full...)
He was prosecuted for domestic violence and now lives in a hostel. So why do I still feel so lonely without him?
Q. I have been married for 25 years i have an 18 year old son. When i first got married things were great then about a year into our marriage signs of my husbands bad temper started to show. I didnt worry too much at first. Then he started smas...
A. 30 July 2014: Abusers are not abusive all of the time. They have their good sides and you are reminiscing on good times. You are used to his presence and you have forgotten what it is like to be by yourself. You had been married so long. Enjoy your peaceful time. ... (read in full...)
How do I reassure him that I'm here for him but not trying to make him get back together? He broke up with me out of the blue so that's why I'm here this week!
Q. Me and my 1.5 year bf just broke up last week. It came out of the blue. We were in a long distance for about 9 months. We always texted each other and try to make skype call everyday. About 2 months ago I suggested him that he should move back...
A. 29 July 2014: Does he travel for work or he is like a hippie wandering from place to place? If he's the latter, then he is escaping or he wants his freedom. Or maybe he wants to find himself and do some soul searching. What you requested was reasonable. He was ... (read in full...)
Why should I have to pay to have given him a second chance that has crushed me?
Q. I had a boyfriend for ten months that I loved alot, and he said he loved me too. We are in our late 30s. He left me for his ex that he was married too, she didnt want him to move on. She didnt like me, so she said shed give it another try if I was ...
A. 29 July 2014: I think you are waiting for him to love you, and you would not accept defeat. A man either loves you or not love you. Saying loving you a little is just pathetic. Your so called boyfriend is still in love with his ex. This is the real reason, not ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to find out what is bothering him! He won't talk!
Q. I've been with my current bf for nearly 4 years and we've always had great fun together and I know we both feel very strongly about eachother. We moved in together in December and everything has been great, up until three days ago. He came back f...
A. 28 July 2014: He wants to break up but is afraid that the true reason is going to hurt you, or that you would think he's a bad person. To be friends means to break up. His way of saying it somehow means he doesn't have time for you but when he does in a blue moon ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied, and I don't know how to approach him about it!
Q. So I've just found out, for the 1st time, that my boyfriend has lied to me. We've been together for 3 amazing months, it's left me feeling on top of the world. We had arranged to see each other tonight and tomorrow before he goes away for...
A. 27 July 2014: If you make it a big deal when you see him, then it only reinforces the idea why he has to lie about certain things, to avoid the drama. In this case, I think it's better to tell him it's okay to tell you the truth. You can handle not going out on ... (read in full...)
At the moment writing is his priority, I want marriage and kids in the future, do I wait or walk?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend just over a year. Everything is amazing! I thought i was in love with previous partners but nothing compares to how i feel about him. Hes so much fun and just completely gets me. He is eight years older than me. I have a ...
A. 27 July 2014: He needs a plan B in case his writing career doesn't work out. His willingness to make you happy and start a family has to be stronger than his pride to make something out of his phd. He assumes at some point he will want a family. That's not enough ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he is hankering for his ex!
Q. I've known my fiance for 6 years we've been in a relationship for 2 and have 2 month old daughter together. Just recently he started speaking about his ex who is the mother of his other child. He says things like, she's a good actress, she just got ...
A. 27 July 2014: He has a history with her and now that you are getting married he can't help but wonder what if they worked things out, what could have been. You have a 2 month old, and he knows that exes are exes for a reason, so that should stop them from getting ... (read in full...)
We are of different faiths and he says I don't appreciate him enough.
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 25. We've been together for about 2.5 yrs now. Im muslim and he's not too religious, but since his father is Jewish, he tends to identify as a Jew. Anyways, we were friends before we began dating, but when we got serious, ...
A. 26 July 2014: He has put effort and gone a long way, only to hear you say go find someone else. No wonder why he got angry. Let him vent. When a person vents, often it's not to say he wants to give up. It's an attention seeking thing with an hidden need to feel ... (read in full...)
I am not thinking straight but I desperately want him back!
Q. I am 29 and my ex boyfriend is 28. We had a very sweet and loving relationship. We had great times together. We would be so happy and sweet just like in the movies. BUT, if we had arguements it always escalated in him breaking up with me. Now I know ...
A. 26 July 2014: If you find yourself nagging, that's because there are things in men you can't stand. Women have a checklist of things that men have to follow in order to be happy while men are just content with having someone to love, and a woman who loves them ... (read in full...)
I'd like to tell him I've fallen in love but I don't want to pressure him
Q. Should I tell my boyfriend I am falling in love with him? We have been together for only a few months but it hit me recently that I am in love with him. Or should I wait for him to say it first? I don't wana put pressure on him to say it if he ...
A. 26 July 2014: If you are sure he is on the same wavelength, meaning you both talked about long term and there is nothing stopping him from being ready for it, then say it. He will be overjoyed. It will mean a lot because he knows that most women wait for the men ... (read in full...)
Why are some straight guys so scared to try something new?
Q. I got a question, i'm a gay guy and I love straight men, especially buff or frat guys. I can't get enough of them. Why are some straight guys so scared to try something new? ...
A. 26 July 2014: This is a sexual double standard. For women it is cool to try things on a girl but for a man, the loss of manhood is a big deal. Tomboy is cool, while sissy is weak and an insult. Anal sex is painful and to receive it somehow implies you are the ... (read in full...)
Is this guy bad news?
Q. I've been speaking to a guy online for a month. We first started speaking through twitter. The first night we started speaking, we stayed up until 6am. The conversation was incredibly deep, we spoke about everything from religion, to current events ...
A. 25 July 2014: That's too much time on the computer. I wonder if he's too broke to date or got nothing else better to do. Maybe when you see him in person you would be disappointed and realize why he has to hide behind a computer screen all this time. He has time ... (read in full...)
Can this relationship be saved?
Q. This page has been so helpful to me before so thought id ask again. Do you think this relationship is salvageable? We started off as friends, friends for 2 years, then got together. Bexause we had been friends we knew so much about each other al...
A. 25 July 2014: I don't like it when friends and family have so much influence on who dates who. They may all think that his last relationship was perfect, if only you did not show up in his life. Your relationship is too crowded. I don't feel he is too desperate ... (read in full...)
Not sure what he's doing on this holiday
Q. I am having some problems with my relationship, and I am hoping someone could help me! My boyfriend and I are 20 and have been dating for almost two years. He has been in Paris for a number of weeks on vacation, and recently we got into an argu...
A. 25 July 2014: His silence means that he would not give up his drinking and partying habits, and would not bother to report when he gets back home. It's not necessary that he's interested in other. He finds it hard to keep both you and his lifestyle. Sadly he's ... (read in full...)
The men I meet talk the talk but don't walk the walk!
Q. Hi all, just looking for a bit of insight on this one! I'm 26, and literally the only single one left out of all my friends! When I was 15, I had my first boyfriend and we were together for 5 years. I broke it of as we drifted apart, and I finished ...
A. 24 July 2014: http://haleyshalo.wordpress.com/2013/10/03/do-people-even-want-to-date-anymore/
Read this page. Golden. A peer into the modern frustrated male mind.... (read in full...)
Am I flirting wrong?
Q. I have never been good at flirting, first of all, but recently I don't know what has come over me with this new guy I know... It started with me and another girl getting him to promise to buy us ice cream because the weather was so hot. Then, a ...
A. 24 July 2014: You might fancy him, but he probably sees it as getting free food, being embarrassed in the crowd, more than you having an interest in him. You would be putting him on the spot. Although guys want the world to know they are attractive, it's not ... (read in full...)
Would it be okay to go out with a friend of the opposite sex?
Q. I am in a relationship of about 5 months, we were together previously. I have a friend who I haven't physically seen, just messaged since I reentered my relationship. My friend did admit he had feelings for me previously when i was single, but i ...
A. 24 July 2014: If you broke up with your boyfriend before and just made up, there's going to be trust issues. Now it should be a time making your boyfriend priority if you want it to work. I am never a fan of on and off relationships. While I believe friends of ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but he doesn't know I am already married!
Q. Dear cupid, im in totally mess right now, i hope you can help me more than i can help myself, im facing such a messy situation what can i do..My story goes this way, i had a boyfriend right now, we already knew each other for about a year i think ...
A. 24 July 2014: It actually hurts more when a person doesn't hear the truth, and suspects that you pull out some lie. It's okay to tell him the truth. Believe me, I am good at lies, I am creative and I can get away with anything. I still think telling the truth is ... (read in full...)
I caught him talking sexually with other men but he denies it!
Q. I need help! I have caught my boyfriend (for the second time) talking to men sexually. We are happy (or so I thought). we've been living together for over a year. He denies everything, i even sent the "mystery man" an email, he says they never ...
A. 24 July 2014: Nothing against gay or bisexuals, just against cheating. He is either using you as a cover girlfriend while fulfilling underground desires or a person without boundaries. I usually don't like living together without getting married but in this case ... (read in full...)
What do I do ? Go back to a safe comfortable marriage with a kind man and be unhappy? Or try again with a new man?
Q. I have been married for twenty years and although I love my husband there has never been the chemistry that I had before him in another relationships. Even at the beginning with my husband it wasn't there , yet I had been in previous relation...
A. 24 July 2014: I would go back to a safe comfortable marriage with a kind man but be happy. You are miserable now because you are stuck. If you want to feel free then see that with whatever choice you make you can be happy with it. I would adhere to the principle ... (read in full...)
She wanted to tell me he is a "player" so I wouldn't get hurt. Is he really a player or is he reformed? What can I do?
Q. I have met this guy on facebook( we both graduated same year in high school) and he lives in one state and I moved to another state, almost 8 yrs ago. He and I found love with each other just by talking on facebook. Been together for 1 month an...
A. 24 July 2014: You mean she said she wasn't coming to his place if she wasn't getting any dick?Then this is not harmless flirting. What do you think people do when they spend over the night? I am sure it's not playing chess together. Most of your contact is online ... (read in full...)
Do I ask him out or not?
Q. ive met a guy I really like through an online dating site , weve been on a few dates and get on really well hes texted me loads to say he really likes me but then he had some bad health news he wont tell me what so fair enough ,he knows it wont ...
A. 24 July 2014: When a man says he can't have a relationship yet, you gotta believe him. The dating site is for him to explore fantasies with women, and to pass time when he's bored. He's prepared to let you go. He doesn't even expect you to hang on to him. Let him ... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying to make a LDR work?
Q. So I have been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. She is now a senior in high school and I am going to be a freshman in college. Our relationahip is as amazing as it could be and I love her with all that I got. We have been having numerous talks ...
A. 24 July 2014: Wiseowle wrote that so you will be motivated to prove him wrong. Of course try, then if it doesn't work you don't have to beat yourself too much. You make it work just like other people. By keeping regular contact and make each visit count. If you ... (read in full...)
I feel like my wife settled with me and its really bothering me!
Q. Ok here is my story. I met my wife 14 years ago. She was 19 and i was 28. I met her through a friend. She had a daughter and i had 2 daughters from previous relstionships. The first time I met her I asked her what she thought of me and she said I ...
A. 24 July 2014: This whole thing just doesn't make any sense. I think your wife bad mouthed you to her mother, or told lies about you such as you cheating. Maybe she even said she still loved her ex. Her mom never had to see the other guys' flaws. Your wife got the ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but he doesn't know I am already married!
Q. Dear cupid, im in totally mess right now, i hope you can help me more than i can help myself, im facing such a messy situation what can i do..My story goes this way, i had a boyfriend right now, we already knew each other for about a year i think ...
A. 23 July 2014: Are you and your husband living in different countries? How can your husband not know where you are living? Your husband knows that you don't love him. If you tell him about your boyfriend he won't be surprised. He's kept in the dark and that's only ... (read in full...)
I've got back with my ex and its made my friend angry!
Q. Just a basic question. Is it fair for friends to get angry at you over decisions you make for yourself and your life? For example, recently, I got back together with an ex who I have been on again/off again with for quite some time. And as soo...
A. 23 July 2014: No it's not acceptable. If she got angry it could be two reasons. She has been possessive of your time since you became friends and your boyfriend took you away from her. Second is that she has an issue with men. Had been duped by men and now seeing ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on love?
Q. A little background I was in a really bad abusive relationship about five years ago- not physical but very verbally abusive have my all and basically got nothing in return. I took some time a year or toe just cause I felt lost and was infatuated ...
A. 23 July 2014: If the guy is not attractive then don't bother. I am not going to give you this "keep looking there is 3 billion men out there" crap. Don't worry. You are not alone. If you want an answer as to why your love life is a disappointment, I will tell you ... (read in full...)
The man I know now is so different from the one I knew 2 years ago. I feel trapped being with him!
Q. I have been going out with this man for 2 years now. He seemed very sweet and attentive at first and has always desired me more than I do him but I've looked past that and tried to see other qualities in him. He is 45 years old and had been living ...
A. 23 July 2014: The things he does are not uncommon and some women like it. It's just that you don't like his personality and don't have much respect for him. He doesn't stop even when he sees that you find him behaving like a dog.
I think he is who he is. His ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid the women I am seeing will fall apart if I would end things and I'm feeling the pressure
Q. So, here's the situation. I've been seeing a woman that I met through mutual friends for about 3 months now. Generally, she's cool and very bubbly. I'm a little freaked out right now. She just came over and I told her that a friend of mine t...
A. 23 July 2014: You may be reading too much. You talked about your friend trying to kill herself, which started the topic between you two. She then shared her opinion on suicide. You have to tell her though, you don't consider her as girlfriend. But why does she ... (read in full...)
I'm working to change but I'm afraid he's not as motivated to make this work as I am
Q. This needs to be long, but I’ll try and sum it up as best I can! I'm 23 years old, and in a long term relationship. I have anxiety problems/am a chronic worrier etc. My boyfriend has dyspraxia, and possibly a touch of autism, which prevents h...
A. 22 July 2014: You have an insecure attachment and it makes him avoidant. Have you tried letting him make plans and work for you? Is sitting back considered a change for you? Don't fear it fizzling out. A man, autistic or not, should put in the effort. If you are ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has baby mama drama and I'm being pushed aside
Q. I am dealing with some baby momma drama. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for about a year and a half. We really love each other and talk about a future together. We are both professionals....im a resident physician and he in school to ...
A. 22 July 2014: What you heard was his side of the story. If she was violent then he should have called the police on her, before she did. A man can paint an ex in any light he wishes. He could have simply fought for custody if the mother was indeed violent, half ... (read in full...)
Was he being polite or is he interested?
Q. Hi, I'm just confused about a guy I met the other night, if he's interested or not I was out drinking and we met at the bar, talked for a bit but I felt like I was being awkward which is common for me, then at the end of the night we hugged goodby...
A. 20 July 2014: He knows little about you and wouldn't want his friends to interfere. He can be polite but you can still get him interested. If you like him ask him on a date (just a coffee or lunch) and see how he replies. Then you will know if he's just being ... (read in full...)
Hopelessly devoted to the wrong men!
Q. Please help. My mind is not reliable nor my heart I met a guy thru a mutual friend and we just hit it off chemistry wise and spiritually. He also knew my ex-bf who has abusive and terrible to me. Some of what was helpful early on was his kindness...
A. 20 July 2014: The no contact is for you to move on. He won't hate you. You are at your weak moment and wanted love. What is to hate about that? If you contact him again and hang out you will be back at wanting more and not getting commitment from him.
There is n... (read in full...)
My girlfriend never seems to have time for me and 'forgets' when we've made plans
Q. Should I break up with my girlfriend? I have been dating her for about 9 months and we are in high school I am home-schooled she is goes to a normal high school. The past few months have been very rough between us, but we are both very stubborn and ...
A. 20 July 2014: She must have some endearing qualities at the beginning that made you date her. The texts couldn't have been the thing that caused fights. It has to be something else, her hormones, stress at school or family. You don't communicate well with each ... (read in full...)
I want to be doubly sure that my behaviour around my baby sister is appropriate
Q. Okay so I am female and 13 years old, and she's still just a little one, six months old. I was wondering if it is appropriate to kiss your little sister on the cheek/forehead? We had a family member living with us years ago that attempted to molest ...
A. 20 July 2014: Oh yes definitely. You know that you are just trying to show her love. ... (read in full...)
I feel like my wife settled with me and its really bothering me!
Q. Ok here is my story. I met my wife 14 years ago. She was 19 and i was 28. I met her through a friend. She had a daughter and i had 2 daughters from previous relstionships. The first time I met her I asked her what she thought of me and she said I ...
A. 23 September 2013: I don't understand why her mom has to watch his kid. Shouldn't the in law relationship end too, especially when that's not her grand kid? Or did she lie and actually that's her kid?
This is not a case of she did this, this in the past and you didn... (read in full...)
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