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writes:I don't know what to think of my dad anymore. my fiance works for him, and my dad tells him dont tell my wife or daughter but if my wife gains anymore weight i wont be attracted to her and tell her im gonna sleep with other woman id understand if you do the same then my fiance said no thats messed up and she would never forgive me then my dad told him if i loved him i would understand its just a piece of a$$ and if im not ok with it he can always do it on the side i am so hurt my dad said that to him i just had a baby 2 months ago i love and hate my dad now how am i suposed to act? he cant know i know but im so hurt
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2014): This may be extreme but, for me, this would be grounds to end the relationship with my father. I'd not tolerant of that kind of disrespect. He'd never get a chance to see my children.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 October 2014):
 JFK's dad would say something similar and cheating was forgiven in his era. Right now I don't think so. My dad is 67, probably much older than your dad and I can't imagine any man today saying this to betray his daughter like that. If you feel angry it should be towards your dad. Your fiance is innocent towards all this but he is kind of dumb to say this to you. There is a Chinese saying which is a smart spouse knows to keep secrets from both sides of the family. If your fiance got so influenced by your dad that it's somehow okay to cheat behind your back then there is something wrong with him. This is not even up for discussion.
Are you just going to suck it up and feel insecure? You know what, if I were you I would confront my dad. Ask him does he regard so little about his princess that he doesn't feel the need to protect you. Your dad probably didn't expect your fiance to spill this to you. He had thought it was just man to man banter. Now he has to learn what's appropriate. Maybe after you talk to your dad he will watch his mouth from now on and think before he speaks.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 October 2014):
 I would talk to your dad, because that is some rather crappy advice he is dealing out to his "son-in-law".
And I would tell the fiance that you DO not agree. Maybe this is actually the PERFECT set up for you and your fiance to talk boundaries.
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