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writes:I have a boyfriend but he went abroad in jan 2014 and he hasn't contacted me anymore. After 4 months, I called him and asked if we're still together, he said yes. So i still hope that we will still continue to communicate but he never chatted me anymore. So i did not contacted him anymore because i don't want to chase him because i feel like he really doesn't like me anymore because i am always sending emails but no response. So i decided to move on... then i found this aussie guy...we dated in august and we became together.. we are having sex of course but he has bigger penis compared to my bf. The problem is my bf texted me this sept. that he will arrive in Dec 2014. My question is, if i resume my relationship with him and have sex with my bf, you think he would notice that i had sex with other guy?? My new guy has bigger and longer size and i felt my size got bigger too because we are having sex almost everyday. Hope you help me. I love my bf...but feel happy and satisfied in bed with my new guy.Thanks.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 September 2014):
 No, your EX boyfriend will not be able to tell you had sex with a bigger guy. But I wonder why you want to get back together with your EX boyfriend after HE stopped contact with you! It doesn't sound like he thought that much of you, if he completely stopped contact. I am also not sure why you think you and him are getting back together, maybe he found himself someone else as well.
It's okay if you still have lingering feelings, love takes time to die. But don't get together with your ex boyfriend just because you still care for him. Love is NOT all in a relationship, there needs to be so much more in order for a relationship to work. And I don't think you and your ex are compatible, for different reasons. I don't think you should consider him a boyfriend (because if you think he's still your boyfriend, then this would mean you have been cheating on him). I also don't think you should even think about getting back together with him. You are happy with your new man. If you were supposed to be with your ex boyfriend then you WOULDN'T have found a new man.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 September 2014):
 No he won't be. Our genitals don't stay the same shape and size all the time. When girls are aroused they open up. When guys have a lot of blood flow down there they get bigger. When they are tired or stress they are smaller down there.
Now, 'we are still together' for most people mean that you are still in a monogamous relationship. You were not very clear about this and did not specify if it meant you weren't allow to see other people. His lack of contact made you feel the relationship isn't going anywhere, so you just made up your own mind about forgetting him. 'Loving him' for you, may mean, yes if you happen to come back then we will pick up where we left off but it doesn't mean no matter what I will be true to you.
So what happens when he comes back is that he would ask you whether you've been with other guy, even before he has sex with you. If you have a conscience then it will be hard to fake that you've never had sex with other people. It doesn't matter if the penis is bigger or smaller than him, if you cheated then it's hard to keep a straight face and tell him no, I waited for you the whole time. It's just that, you think, if you had a smaller penis then it would be hard for him to tell if you ever cheated at all. For a guy it's unfair because penises don't stretch like vaginas do. Men don't get pregnant so there is no sign to show they cheated.
I can't imagine him not being with anyone else either. So to avoid arguments you will probably adopt a no ask no tell policy. If you are not aroused, you are smaller down there. When you see him you will be too worried to feel aroused. One thing he would do though, is ask you whether he should put on a condom. That means he knows there is a possibility you had sex with another man and he wants to protect himself. It all depends on how far you are going to lie.
If you are very serious about resuming the relationship you should phase out the relationship with the Aussie guy. Try to erase him from your memory.
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