A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Quick question(s): I've been getting to know this girl for about two months now. The first half of that time primarily consisted of us meeting up for drinks with our mutual friends. Then we started texting, then we met up for drinks in a much more intimate group, and then finally she started coming over and we'd start doing things just the two of us.Since we've left school and went home for Christmas, our texting frequency has increased and seeing each other has been replaced with late night phone calls, which has been pretty much been every night, and about every other night we talk for 3 or so hours.I've definitely been developing feelings over the last two months and had we still been together at school, probably would've told her by now, but since we're 100 miles apart at the moment, I've held off, because I don't want to do such things over the phone. She's driving into my city for New Years where we'll be spending it with each other and our respective best friends.1) How should I come clean about my feelings? I'm almost certain they're mutual, but I don't want to do it over the phone, I don't want to make New Years about 'us,' and I don't want to carry on playing this game where we make each other guess how we feel until we see each other at school again.2) Recently while bullshitting on the phone, she said two things that were slight loooong term concerns. She's not sure if she ever wants kids, and blessed with an amazing metabolism, she gets away without exercise and poor diet, and has no plans to change either. As someone who wants kids, and someone who values taking care of one's body, this concerns me for the long haul.Should I even be worrying about the long haul now? Do I let this run its course in the direction it was heading, or should I let my long term feelings affect my short term feelings and pursue other options?Many thanks.
View related questions:
best friend, christmas, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, janniepeg  +, writes (23 December 2014):
 I would think hard about number 2 before what to do with your feelings (number 1). I would have to consider how poor that diet is. Some people live a long life even with junk food, some have healthy babies even when smoking and drinking. I would not take that risk though.
I think it's easy to tell people to do what's rational and plan ahead. For an impatient and curious person like me I would just go ahead and risk because it's my personality to live in the moment.
|
