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writes:How long should you wait before having sex with a guy?Ok, I met this lovely guy in September, we've been on 5 dates, third date he kissed me and stayed at mine, fourth date same and fifth date same too. He lives out of London, so we usually go out, then come back to mine because I live in London, each time we've come back and just chatted to the early hours then gone to bed, kissed and cuddled. It's only on our last date on saturday (5th date) that he actually tried it on with me, but I had a friend staying and said 'maybe next time....' he backed off but was smiling to himself and looked please with himself that it's going to happen next time....But my worry is, I obviously do want to have sex with him, but I'm worried it's going to ruin things between us. Things have been going so well and we get on really well, I don't want it to turn into a sex only relationship and him think he can just meet up with me for sex... is it too early?He does seem to really like me and is a complete gentleman and I do want to go there, I'm just unsure.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2014): There is no such thing as too early or when. It's between the couples. You can wait and then 3 months later break up with a guy. Also remember he can woo you until sex happens and then turns it all into sex thing.
He can tell you he wants committed relationship and then has 5 girls at the same time. Usually women have intuition about a guy, so it's better to give it a little time, at least a month.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (23 December 2014):
What is you vagina worth??? A few month, a few years, or a ring? Choice is yours. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2014): If you don't feel ready and have doubts, then it's too soon. Listen to your gut.
I usually have sex with a guy only after we've discussed how we feel about each other and our expectations. Like my boyfriend now, he told me he loved me two months after dating. Then after that, we had sex, it felt right.
My boyfriend previous to him was pretty similar. He told me he loved me and asked me to be his girlfriend. Then we had sex.
If he brings it up, just tell him you like him but prefer to be exclusive and committed before having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2014): If he's really hot, maybe a few minutes if u can wait that long?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (23 December 2014):
 Bing unsure about such a serious decision is a GOOD thing don't be unsure of your self. Let him lead the way here you are being proper and if he has feelings for you he will respect your tentiveness and wait until the time is right for the both of you. Never be in a rush to give away something you can only give once in your life. Be proud of yourself and you will gain his respect and you will be in good standing with your future life karma. I'm proud of your self control. He will be too. Not to worry.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (23 December 2014):
 It's a gentleman thing to talk about what he's expecting when the sex subject comes up. Such as, he's looking for a serious relationship, or no he's not ready for a relationship. For men who are not upfront because they are shy, new to this, being vague or whatever, it is up to you to make it clear on both sides. Because you live in different cities, you have to calculate how often you are going to see each other and whether you would be satisfied with that frequency. I don't see it as a grave mistake if you have sex before knowing all this, but ideally the time to have sex is when you are clear about each other's intentions and whether there is a spark, something that glues you together.
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