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writes:Hi everyone.. I am quite in a pickle at the moment and i urgently need some advice... So about a week ago, my boyfriend and I were in an argument and things got pretty bad. And we were both invited to the same party. At that party I was feeling stressed out and didn't really feel like myself.. The next thing I knew I took a drink. (Coke mixed with a little vodka) well I'm not a drinker and tbh I don't really like alcohol... But that day, smtg just came over me and I just took that drink. And since im not a drinker I got light headed and probably drunk after 2 half a cup. (In a way it's one full cup) My girl friend was there to watch out for me luckily. Unfortunately, my boyfriend was actually there watching me. I literally thought that he didn't care about me anymore but all along he was watching me. Anyways... After that party we actually talked about it and we fought a little more.. But after that we worked things out and I told him that I'm never touching a drink again. He and I are fine.. Until tonight. All of a sudden it's all coming back to him. And I can understand that it is hard to forget. And I told him to just try to not think about it and just try to look on the good things about us. He said "I can't do that forever." So I really need help on how to deal with this.. He's the kind of guy that suddenly let the past come back to him. And I am trying to help him deal with it. I fully understand that what I did was a mistake and that forgetting is hard but at the same time, I know it's not a good thing to like dwell on the past Cuz it kinda stops us from moving forward and patching up the mistakes. I really really need help and some good advice on what to say to him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2014): You haven't done anything wrong! I agree with the previous poster, and your boyfriend is making a big deal out of nothing. People make all sorts of mistakes in relationship... I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have both made plenty of misses, but we love each other so we forgive each other. Have you apologised? If so, you don't need to do it again. Tell him this, say you love him and you are sorry but you are only human. Make him make a decision, say he either should forgive and forget or just let you go.... it's not fair that he strings you along and keeps bringing it up... He sounds quite immature and controlling. He is never going to find a 'perfect' girl who is incapable of making a mistake, and if he really expects that then he will hold grudges for the rest of his life.good luck hun, remember everyone makes mistakes (usually bigger ones than this) and stop beating yourself up about it. You sound like a great girlfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2014): I asked this question...
Well when I was drunk I don't rmb much during that night. I was literally out for a period of time.. And I wasn't even flirting etc.. And the thing is he is tough to be with.. But during the fight he told his feelings never changed for me. It's just the drinking bit that made him disappointed. Also, he keeps on thinking that it's not my first time drinking well it actually is. If I had drinks before I think my tolerance would've been better than getting knocked out after a glass. Any more suggestions on what to do?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 December 2014):
 I know what past there is to speak of. You were just experimenting on drinks. It's not like the alcohol made you frisky and you were flirting with other guys. Your boyfriend is controlling. Maybe it's religion that prohibits you from drinking. If he made a big deal out of coke and vodka, imagine what other things you can't do. That is after you said you won't drink again. Your boyfriend is a hard piece of work. If he brings it up, say you won't talk about it anymore then change the subject. Expecting virgins or girls who's never touched another guy is hard enough. I think to demand a girl who's never had a sip of alcohol is ridiculous.
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