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writes:Hi CupidI think I need some advice regarding my situation and I wonder why people do that?I met a girl over a beach and we connected amazingly and it felt great. We had great time, shared our secrets and it seemed great! We talked about our fears and our lives as we knew each other for years but it was mere a week. Whatever I had to say, she said the same thing before me and whatever she was to say, I completed her sentence.Later, I made a mistake but we sorted it out and I made it up to her. I also give her a gift on her birthday and showed I cared!Fast forward it to two weeks later, we have become so distant to each other. Not trying to open to each other anymore and even try to talk. I even sont try texting her. I am not sure, the feeling of joy we had seems tarnished. I feel as she's avoiding me and doesn't want to talk to me (she started replying to my texts a day late which was before in minutes so I distanced myself as well. I know she isn't that busy and writes to other mates)Now I fail to understand, why first we could be fearless and open to each other and now even when we know each others deepest secrets which no one else knows, we act or rather pretend that we don't care and carry on with our lives.I care but it's hard for me to show but then again I am not sure if she cares too.Why people do that ?Should I stop trying and ignore her ?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 February 2015):
 It's easy to open up to strangers (I say strangers even when you aren't) because they are less likely to judge. Your mistake was creating a different persona even when she showed that she liked the real you?
Chalk it up to inexperience. You've been talking to this girl for a few weeks but didn't have the courage to date her and make it real? If I were the girl I would be thinking what does he want? Does he want me to just like him, his stories or does he want an actual relationship? It could also be that she lost interest and began talking to other people.
When you like a girl you ask her out. It's simple. When you wait for signs if she likes you then you are risking being friendzoned. You may think being friendzoned is better than rejected outright but it certainly does not progress the way you want to. Being able to finish each other's sentences is not some otherworldly ability, not a sign of being soulmates. The only sure sign of showing interest is to ask someone out.
What you decide to do is up to you. How about ask her "be mine" on valentine's day?
There is no magic formula to make her say yes to you, no manipulating tricks that reach deep inside a woman's soul. It's a stage when you take a chance and know for sure so you don't have to waste time anymore. If she really likes you she will look past your lying and understand it's just human to want to impress.
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