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writes:I'm 18 and have been friends with a guy from school for four years , he has an older brother who is 21, he has always been friendly but nothing major.When he was in high school he was a complete player dating lots of girls, after high school he hooked up with a lot of one night stands and a few years ago he sent a bunch of racy pictures of a girl we was seeming to his friends.A few weeks ago he asked me out on a date, I said yes. I was surprised of how nice and sweet he was. We went out on a few dates and he was really sweet and funny. Last weekend he invited me to a party with his friends and he was completely different. He was very on guard and couldn't seem to relax. One of friends started asking him questions about what I was like in bed with me literally in the same room as them. He got upset at his friend and we ended up leaving. He apologies several times to me We started talking he told me he was a jerk in High school and just kind of went with the bad boy reputation because it was easier then trying to fix what he had done. Once he started opening up he said he hated alot of the things he did and didn't even enjoy hanging out with the friends he had because he was different then them.I really believe that he isn't the guy he makes himself out to be but my friends think he is totally playing me.I think he made mistakes in his past but I do believe he is sorry am I crazy to trust him
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (15 February 2015):
 Janniepeg, the guy sent a girl's racy pictures to his friend - I'd say that was very wrong.
I'd suggest taking it very slowly to see if his actions match his words. I don't think it would be wise to have any form of sex with him any time soon and I wouldn't advise ever sending racy photos to anyone, but particularly this guy - just in case he hasn't changed, or if his jerk of a friend gets hold of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2015): He may very well have changed and good on him if he is trying to be a better person.
But just tread very carefully with him, those girls he slept with weren't stupid, he may very well have perfected his art of sweet talk and by the sounds of it he has had plenty of chance to practice. Quite often the guys, and girls, who play the field know exactly what to say to get someone to trust them and into their bed because they have done it so often. Take your time with him and let his actions speak louder than his words. He's shown he can stand up to his friends and perhaps he is changing but be careful with your feelings.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (15 February 2015):
 He didn't do anything wrong. It's his friend being the jerk. If he's sorry it's for the humiliating situation he put you through and not knowing his friend couldn't keep his mouth shut. He did the right thing by leaving. It shows that he's mature enough to know that intimacy matters are personal. He feels bad he's associated himself with them. He outgrew the need to kiss and tell. Some people do go through a bad boy phase and it's not necessarily mistakes as it takes both parties' consent to play games, and to experiment with sex. It would only be a mistake if he says one thing and does another. He can say he changed but trust takes time. Because of his record you may guard your heart but if he treats you good consistently then you will find it easier to trust him.
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