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*inker x
writes:i had been with my boyfriend two and a half years and we split for three months and decided to give it another go. But about two to three weeks he got back together with his x who he has a child with he says he only did it for his child and didnt and hasnt got any feelings for her, i cant help but keep asking myself if he loved me how could he go back to her that soon after us spliting up. Anyway we have been together nearly nine months now and everything seemed good but now it seems to be going back to how it was when we were together before.we are mostly in the house as none of us work at the moment and havent got the money to do much. He spends all the money he has on weed.he has smoked this since he was 16 and is now 23 he cant go a day without it and if he hasnt got any he is a completly different person, he will shout and say horrible things. Most the things he says are repeated the next time he hasnt got weed.he tells me he should be with his mates not in the house with me and that its my fault hes like this. He makes nasty remarks saying he could find someone else and that im ugly sometimes. He sometimes says there no excitment with us and he will blame me for everything. And then as soon as he smokes some weed he will say sorry and that he didnt mean what he said. But how can i just forget im forever wondering whether he meant everything he said or not. He is only nice when he smokes weed and then turns into this horrible person when not smoking it. I have my own place but i havent been there in months as i stay at his. But he tells me to get out all the time when hes angry but i never seem to want to go home no matter how nasty the things are he says, i end up going out for hour then coming back asking him to talk. I feel realy weak keep coming back after he says these things. He even brings hes daughters mother into it and says she wouldnt do this to me and i still stay with him. Yesterday i was trying to give him hugs and he pushed me off then today he was trying to give me one but i was upset and told him it doesnt feel like he wants to be near with me. This caused a row as he hadnt had any weed and he told me to grow up and that i am last on his list i wake up thinking bout weed not you. And comparing his mates saying they dont go home to there girlfriends till night and that he stuck here with me. Then half an hour later asking me for a kiss! I am confused why he says this to me and then says sorry. Does this man really care for me im stuck please help x
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reader, tinker x +, writes (28 April 2010):
tinker x is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjanniepeg i have my own place but never seem to want to go back there on my own. I dont enjoy my own company never have i dont know why. I am quite an insecure person i think cause of things that have happend in my life, so when he tells me to go i never want to because being away from him i cant stp worrying about what hes doing. I am waitin to start wrk and scared about being away from him then. I dont know how to stop myself worrying like this. Hes never cheated as far as i know but made comments about going with someone else in arguments but then when calmed down says would never do that to me cause he loves me. Hes been great last night had a night in together. Hes addmited hes addicted to this weed and he wakes up in the morning thinking about it rather then thinking about me or his daughter. I dont know what to think. X
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 April 2010):
 That weed abuse has to stop. He has nothing good to offer you. Perhaps he went back to his ex to get benefits, such as money? He will only be sweet, loving, and caring if you happen to have money for him to buy more weed. Time to let him go. You are not responsible for his temper. The decision to quit weed has to come from him. This is tricky. Where else are you going to live? Can you move back to your parents? I am sure they would be so sad to see you like this.
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reader, It's all be okay +, writes (26 April 2010):
This man is not treating you with love and respect. He is treating you appallingly - and you are letting yourself be treated this way and apparently feel bad that you are.
He is childish, selfish, irresponsible to be spending his money on drugs, rude, horrible, nasty, and so on.....
What should you do? Dump him of course! Find someone kind, responsible and grown up, who will treat you the way you deserved to be treated.
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