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writes:So, i'm almost 14 years old, and english is not my language, so sorry if it is bad written. Since 2 school years we have a german teacher, he's pretty hard with all the class except me. First half year i was almost afraid of german class, cause he was SO sticky to me! That is really desagreeable. Since the first day in class he speaks about me again and again, at the beggining of this german class he stands behind me, and is whispering something almost in my ear. He say that i'm his "lovely gothic girl" or "my little lolita".. He punish frequently everyone for such stupid things like: draw little flowers in their notebooks or having a chewing gum. But usually i draw in my notebook manga characters and he just said "awesome", once i had a lollipop in class because i doesn't have time to finish it before. He did like he sees nothing. Everyone registered that he's flirting with me. I kept hating him. But the worst is, that at the beggining of this year, he watched me straight in my eyes a little bit longer and intensiver than usual, and suddenly i fell in love. I don't know how. And he registered that, and since that, that is worst and worst. I think of him all the day, and in the class he's always looking at me. When i chat with my friend, he say to this guy: "Please don't flirt with her" and then he added "..she's mine." Everyone was shoked but noone dare to say anything, because he is really hard with them and is able to manipulate them. Often he stands behind my chair intentionally he breaths on my neck. That makes me excited, he feels it and laugh silently.I see this suggestive look in his eyes.He organised a trip to Germany next week. But in german class we're only 6 + me and he will be the only adult there.Everynight i have really HOT dreams of him and me. And while this trip come near and near, his comportment is stranger and stranger.Please help me what to do. I searched his name on the net and he seems be around 35 or something like that. He's not a teacher, he has an important international job, and this is just accessory because he speaks lot of languages (he teaches only our class 2 times a week. Thanks for those that were patient of me and read all this message.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 If all it takes for you to fall head over heals is to stare in your eyes, you'd better work on building better resistance.
We've seen many questions of student to teacher crushes, but rarely of this magnitude. In my view, he's gone from "innocent crush or attraction" to pedophile. From what I understand in this context, "lolita" would be you (as a young girl) giving yourself sexually to he (as he is the pedophile).
Someone can correct this if they find it wrong, but from my view from what he's said, and his actions, you are not the first young girl he's gone after. You will also not be the last. You may feel as if you fell in love with him. Let's change the look to reality for a moment. It seems as if he wants you for sex, that is it, no love, no compassion, no intimacy, and no relationship. Just for sex, then off to his next victim.
I know being young, and thinking he teaches so he must have your best interest at heart. It's hard to realize, NO HE DOES NOT." He is someone who WILL destroy you emotionally, and won't loose any sleep over doing it. According to http://yourdictionary.com, the definition of lolita is, "a pubescent girl who is sexually precocious"
I believe you need to either involve your school, your parents, or someone else with authority you can trust. It needs to be turned in and stopped. If not just for you, for those who may have come before, and to protect those who may be next if nothing is done. I cannot express to you in words how dangerous this situation can turn into. It is vitally important that this does not continue.
I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): i i am coming 14 too so i understand a bit of what your saying what i think is that you need to back of on this teacher because he and you will get in big trouble for going that xtra mile it was probley just your horimones so i wouldint worry if it gets to far or to unconfotable you should tell someone like another teacher or your mum/dad
p.s i will always be here to help
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 He has a big title but he's also a spooky pedophile. He's shown himself to be unprofessional. Wake up from your dream. If your dream became reality it will be nothing pleasant. Talk to your school principal. You have classmates as witness.
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reader, fk +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Hi I get that your young and that your emotions are everywhere but you have to think that he is in a place of authority and in no way has the right to use that as a way of getting to you. If you go on the trip be careful. I understand this will be hard and if you feel concerned speak to someone about it. These kind of things can really mess with your head. I've been in this kind of situation and believe me it messed stuff up in my head for a while. Please talk to someone like the headteacher or family. What he is doing is wrong despite your feelings. I hope everything works out and please exceed with caution. Let me know how this goes. Good Luck
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reader, confusedtwatdotcom +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Babe honestly if you feel that your teacher is flirting with you then you should report him to the police. He is abusing his power and using favouritism which is how these predators operate. The fact that you're only 13 is even worse. Try to avoid him and don't think about him either. You're probably not the only girl that he is doing this with and if you do go to Germany make sure you're never alone with him.
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