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writes:My boyfriend of 8 years cheated on me with one of my close co-workers at work, all three of us work together. And we have hung out together on the regular. But now the girl is pregant she's saying its 50-50. she not sure who the father is? I don't know what to do? I'm not sure if I should stay or go? Please help!!
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reader, sxybabygurl4l +, writes (5 May 2010):
sxybabygurl4l is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the great and fast post I appericate it
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reader, Hard_decision  +, writes (5 May 2010):
Leave hun - I was in the EXACT same position recently. Its not easy.. throughout her pregnancy I thought I could handle it.. baby came and looked EXACTLY like my now ex bf.. after the child was born i still believed his promises of being a changed man etc... they were still lies.. he didnt think of you when he was sleeping with her, he didnt care what this may do to you.. I wasted a LOT of time with my ex hoping things would work out.. they just dont hun, the trust is not only broken, but crushed! You're young.. dont waste another day on this asshole.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 May 2010):
He cheated, so that's a good enough reason to end it right now anyway. Only a DNA test will tell the truth. But to be honest, your best bet is to leave. Why settle for a second rate man?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 May 2010):
 The cheating bit would have lost me either way, pregnancy or no pregnancy. If you feel you can make it work, then stick around for the results of the DNA test. I'm assuming there's going to be a DNA test because she will need to figure out who's financially responsible for the child for the next 18 years.
You could just put the relationship on hold until after she delivers the baby.
I guess it depends on what you have invested with this guy and if you think you can make it work, if he is NOT the father of the baby. Either way, he cheated, daddy or no daddy. Can you trust him again?
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Hello,
I cant tell you what to do but I would be devastated that he cheated regardless of whether this girl is pregnant. And you work with her so she is a constant reminder to you that he cheated. I'm so sorry but I'd have to leave him. I just couldn't take it. Hannah x
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 May 2010):
 I am sorry that happened to you. You should go whether he's the father or not. Go tell your coworker, "Don't worry, you can have him." The one good thing that came out of this is that you are not pregnant with that jerk.
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