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writes:I have 4 children all adults and I have neve rtried to interfer in any of their lives before/. I think that kids need to learn from their mistakes, until now that is. I own a contracting compnat and have a lot of young men work for me. As guys will be I always hear stories of their hook ups and such. There is one kid Clay, he is a great worker good guy but he has ne respect for girs. He is a huge kiss and tell guy, On monday morning I can bet I can ove rhear him talking baout the girl that he ahd for the weekend. He doesnt mind telling what they did and he seem so degrading to this girls I wonder How he gets irls. He has even went as far as secretly taping them and showing some of the guys at work. If he wasnt an employee I would had punched him int eh mouth by now. A month ago my daughter who is 22 moved home for the summer (she was away in school). After being home for only a week she told me she was gong on a date, I was shocked when Clay was the ine knocking on my door. Ever since their first date when ever I walk on to a site at work all in silent, Clay stops talking and jsut out his head down and has this little grin that I woudl love to tak eoff his face. When he comes to our hosue he gives me that little grin again. I dont want my daughter to me another girl he is talkign about to his friends, but ow can I warn her what he is like with out upsettign her or making it seem liek I am tryign to tell her who to date. And how can I get through the day with out wanting to snap that boy in two.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 I totally understand why you are frustrated that your daughter is dating a sleazy man. However there is nothing you can really do about it - if you interfere then your daughter may rebel and hang onto him tighter still. I think you just have to be around to pick up the pieces when the romance fades. She has to learn her own lessons about players and the guy sounds a bit of an idiot so her infatuation will die out. Once the romance has faded, find a reason to sack Clay as he is probably a distracting influence to your workers and I am sure there will be employment laws to support your decision centred around sexual discrimination and derogatory behaviour in the workplace.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Just tell her what you know about that boy and allow her to make the final decision. If she respects you , she will not date him or fall into his clutch.
You could fire him or send him to work in some sectors that you won't see each other in the day.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Try to separate your emotions and tell her matter of factly what you know about Clay. Make her feel like she still has a choice to back off, and not because she has to do what you tell her to. Advise her not to let him film her, ever. People would love to hear juicy details such as what her body looks like, whether she's wearing panties, what she did to him or what she let him do. If she dresses modestly and behaves like a lady and speaks maturely, and only hangs out with him as a friend, no one would be interested in hearing it. Let people see how well they are treating each other and don't judge Clay and label him as the player for the rest of his life. People do change and maybe your daughter could inspire him to be a gentleman.
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