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writes:My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 8 months now, and says he wants to give me a ring, engagement ring to be exact. I was thrilled when he said this, but as i laid in bed i thought. Im 17,almost 18, this is my first serious relationship. He is 20, he has had many girlfriends and ready to settle down. We plan on going to college together, its just as i sit here thinking, how do you know if hes the one. I love him to death, cant stand a day without being with him and he always makes me happy. Maybe im thinking to much into it, but its going to be the start of my life. My question is, is 17 too young to settle down with the someone you think is the one? Reply to this Question
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reader, greenflower +, writes (11 May 2010):
I think this is a two part question. 1) Are you too young for this love? 2) Are you sure he's the one when he's the only one you've been with?
1) No. Love happens all the time and outsiders can't understand how you feel when you're with him. But I will say this, you are going to go through a lot of changes in college. You are going to experience a lot of new things and you won't be able to recognize you're young adolescent self at the end of it. The most important part of all of this is ... will the two of you be able to undergo these changes together? grow together? as long as you keep in mind that the way you two are right now will change and will grow, and make your decision from that... you'll know you're answer.
2) I deal with this question everyday. I met my boyfriend at an older age than you. He's my first and only. I'm his 5th (3rd serious). I don't know if he's the one since I haven't dated others. I've gone through the jealousy stages too (imagining him with the girls before me). None of that really matters, I guess. It doesn't matter that he tried a few times, failed and than found you. Or that you may have gotten right (or with doubts, wrong) on the first time. In the end, are you willing to believe that there is someone in this world better than him for you? That's the risk. Do you think he's a 99% match while your 100% match is somewhere out there?
I hope you find your answer (I'm still working on mine). You're young. Think it through and talk it through. You too @rose_pettle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): well im 15 engaged alrwady i been with him for a year now he has had my name tattoed on his chest and basically how yu can find out is if he has been in serious relationships before and hasnt got their name tattoed on him but wants to get yours yu must really mean somethin to him and i cant really explain what it feels like but yu will be able to definatley tell and like yu said yur young so say yur engaged for 2 months and it dnt work then call it off and go about it like tht but its wats goin on in yur life now if yu dnt accept the ring and yall break up yu will always say to yurself wat if i wouldve took the ring. so go ahead live yur life and try it out stay engaged for a while just causer yur engaged doesnt mean yu have to get married right away and i have to let yu know people will be jealous and say negative things about it but like i said its yu not them so ignore them good luck.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 May 2010):
 No, it's not. You are very lucky to have a great boyfriend for your first. Many people stumble upon several partners before they find the one. You will have your doubts, but just try to make the best out of the relationship. If it doesn't work out, that's because you are not meant to be, and not because it's your lack of experience. Right now he's the one who wants to share life with you. Whether he would stick by you through thick and thin is unknown for now. I know it's too early to think that far. It's only been 8 months. You really have to know him better to make any lifelong committment, like actually getting married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): Hello,In my opinion 17 is way too young for this kind of commitment. You've never dated anyone but him. He's had experience playing the field before you. I'm not doubting you love him very much but I just don't truly know if he's the one when you haven't had any prior relationship experience. I'd enjoy the relationship see how things go in time then decide. Good luck;D
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