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writes:My girlfriend vagina is much looser than any other women i have been in a serious relationship with, what really bothers me is that i dont have a small penis im actually well over average, so i kno its not me, I really like the person that she is, but the size of her vagina bothers me, im use to past partners making gassy noises during intercourse, but my girlfriends vagina does it just by me bending her over...before i even enter her, and it opens up to the point where i can see inside of her, should i tell her this bothers me and try to talk about it, or should i leave her because of it???
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reader, Mr Experienced  +, writes (16 October 2014):
Some of the answers above are so silly its embarrassing.
If the vagina is able to open up to the degree you mentioned, she is probably taking in air. Meaning the problem is not likely to be your size. If she can get 3-4 fingers in (straight line, not crumpled up) with minimum effort, she needs to see a gynaecological.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): has she had any babies in the past? Having a baby by vaginal birth can significantly loosen up the vagina as well as weaken the abdominal muscles. If not that is just the way she is and you may have to accept it or leave her if you want more sexual satisfaction. You could suggest to her that doing pelvic floor exercises can improve sexual experience...which it can. Whatever you do, dont tell her that her vag is too loose. Thats like someone telling you your penis is too small.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): I had a similar situation--my wife's vagina, although it feels fantastic when we begin intercourse,--as she becomes aroused--her vagina begins to swell to the point that my already rather thin penis either gets pushed out or I loose my erection from the pressure. Just when she is close to orgasm, I can't physically continue, and then we both feel frustrated. After about 12 years of this situation---I convinced her to let me find her a more hung male lover--(a fantasy I had anyway) for a 3some. What resulted is that she had intense multiple orgasms as his size was too large for her vagina to force out! He felt spasms and tightness and loved it! I followed him and found her vagina absolutely wonderful--physically the best I ever felt! We have been having MFM sex now for over 8 years. After a handful of lovers, she settled on only one--he visits once a week or so and it has kept our sex life hot and fullfulling! By the way, our marriage has benefited and we feel we our soul mates.
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reader, xXxkinki_katiexXx +, writes (25 January 2009):
 Herloo,,
I dont think you should tell her about her private parts that would be like a women having a look at your penis and saying you have a tiny small disgusting willy lol but then i dont think you should leave her for something pathetic like that!! You obviously dont like her for what she actually is,, i think thats rather nasty and you want to leave her just coz shes got a lil bit bigger hole than ya past girlfriends while your worrying about that,, im gona tell ya there are plenty of other sexual contact that is fun,, so dont be an idiot and lose then one you love just b'coz shes got a lil bit bigger hole than some :D x
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Absolutely do not say anything about this to your girl. That is just too cruel. Personally, I would love to look up her vagina if I were you, and swill it for an hour with my tongue, but if that or anything else you mentioned turns you off, then I'm certain you are not right for this girl and she needs someone who appreciates her beauty.
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reader, didda123 +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Well i think you will have all us women doing our pelvic floor exercises now lol!
I can't imagine how you will broach this delicate subject without offending your girlfriend.
Normally the release of air from the vagina during sex is caused by the vacuum created during penetration and the thrusting action.
Does she have any children as i know your muscles can become weaker after childbirth but they should recover and she is just young.
Also is it not just the outer labia which you are noticing to be larger or is is during intercourse you feel she is not tight enough.
She could be suffering from Pelvic Floor Dysfunction (PFD) you will have to initiate a sensitive and light hearted talk on the subject and possibly encourage her to see her doctor. You can also buy pelvic floor excercisers which can help to tone up the pelvic muscles should this be the case.
Just as penis size and breasts vary it is the same for women's vaginas and if it really is causing her no other problems such as leaking urine maybe when she coughs or sneezes then the problem is really whether you can overcome your concerns, a sexual relationship is more than just penetration but it seems you are finding her size offputting so only you can decide whether the relationship is worth persuing.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 January 2009):
Why on earth would you tell her???!?!?!?!?!
What would that do apart from seriously hurting her?
If you are not happy in the relationship then leave her. It doesn't sound like you are that serious about her if you can talk about her in this way and consider insulting her so badly for no reason.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, carriebaby +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Dont ever bring that up to her? its not her fault its the way it is. If you are considering ending it with her because of this issue then you dont deserve her.!!!
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