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writes: My wife and me have been married for 3 weeks now. But a little problem I never saw her breasts. Even when we were dating she wouldn't let let me see them. She said they'll gross me out (she has a long scar one of them) and also she thinks she didn't deserve me. I try make her feel comfortable in the bedroom. We have sex but she wont take off her bra (she'll get upset if I try). It's starting to get annoying and I'm thinking about ripping her bra right off when we make love. Should I?
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (19 January 2009):
 As often the case, "satindesire" offered you good advice. Absolutely do NOT disrespect your wife's current desire to protect, and even conceal, something that is apparently very embarrassing to her, although I agree that it is a bit strange. I think that your "job" during this very early period of your marriage is to accept her, love her unconditionally and concentrate on making her believe and feel that you are totally happy that she is your loving bride, regardless of any conceived imperfections. I'll bet things will work out just fine if you are so loving and patient, and she will forever treasure you.
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reader, survivor1987 +, writes (19 January 2009):
I think she will eventually either tell you or show you what she is hiding from you.If she didnt trust you she never would have married you.I have alot of scars from my past, and it took me awhile to tell my husband where they came from, and I even was at one point, not able to have sex with the lights on, cause I was ashame of my body.Hon, give her time, just be patient, and be caring.She has obviously got a story or reason behind it.
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reader, mosie +, writes (19 January 2009):
Do you know how her scar got there? Are her breasts intact, meaning, did she have a problem and have to have one removed? Does she have 2 seemingly normal appearing breasts (despite one with a scar)? Please don't get annoyed with her and don't rip her bra off, at least right now at this point in your relationship. Most guys think Va-j-j's are the only sexual part of a woman, but breasts are too. This, coupled with a scar and a possible emotional history of how the scar got there, with the fact that you are newly married and she is really wanting to please you as well, could be too much right now. I am assuming this scar would not bother you; even if you haven't seen it firsthand, do you think you could handle it? First, if you don't know how the scar got there I would talk to her about it. Be sincere and honest and be loving and gentle. If you do know her history about the scar, then try to talk to her lovingly and tell her she is the most beautiful person in the world, scar and all, and that you love her with or without it, no matter what. Tell her there is nothing that would change your love for her, even a little scar! Then, if she shows it to you, touch it gently and kiss it--don't make weird faces or say EWW or anything like that either (I know, don't state the obvious). Tell her she is beautiful again, scar and all. Just be close to her and understanding, even if she doesn't want to show it to you right away. Keep working on her, always being gentle, loving, and understanding. By all means, DO NOT force her to show it to you. This is scary to her. She wants you to think she is so beautiful right now, and she doesn't think she is. After she finally shows it to you, you will know when the time is right to rip her bra off while you are making love, if she is even wearing it at all! Please let me know how this turns out. I will be praying for both of you and your young love, that it lasts forever...
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (19 January 2009):
 I don't think that you should rip off her bra when you have intercoarse, that would most likely make her upset and angry. You can try and convince her that she should not feel uncomfortable with her scar. That's all you can do.
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