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writes:ok so ive been having sex for 2 months nowand i dont seem 2 enjoy penetration like i get bored and just want him 2 stop...can anyone help me with this..and also why is it when i get this feeling i dont think its a orgasim but im not sure it feels like im completly over it like ive finished sorry if this is a bit confuzing if u need clarifying i can explain again...pleasee help Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (20 January 2009):
 Based on your posting, I highly doubt that you have experienced a skilled lover, but you are not the least bit unusual. Few men up until about the age of 25 or 30 have much of a clue about pleasing a woman, and apparently a majority never know. If about all that he or they have done is jump right away to intercourse, then that is the problem. While I can only speculate on what your sexual escapades during only two months is lacking, I'm quite certain it has a lot to do with inexperience and lack of knowledge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): Try out new things -- maybe get him to experiment with new positions. Maybe check out stores that offer sex toys... that might help heighten the mood. Also, make sure you aren't rushing. There are books and videos on different moves, positions, etc. and they may be able to help. Try oral (if you haven't already), and maybe go to a new place that's exciting. Underwater, whatever you like. Make sure you aren't disturbing anyone else, though, if you decide to go places. Of course, maybe he just isn't the best, and if you want a relationship revolving around sex then you might want to break it off and find someone who can excite you. Be sure to get in lots of foreplay. If none of this is working, you may not enjoy sex with a man and a woman as much as you would enjoy same sex sex. Check out all the options! Good luck!
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reader, SebastePistis +, writes (19 January 2009):
 Pardon me for being blunt, but do you ever masturbate?A big part of sex is mental - foreplay, touching, being sensual, setting a mood. If it's rushed or is always the same thing (one position, same situation over and over) then sex can in fact get boring.Maybe you can teach your boy what you do like, if it's kissing, or being caressed a certain way. If he's able to make you feel great during foreplay, then maybe the sex will be better.Of course, it's just as likely that the guy's lame in the sack, but the only way you'll find out is if you make an effort to educate.All else fails, look up asexualism on the Internet and see if that might appeal to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): No offends to your boyfriend but...
I think he is doing it wrong.
If you are bored during sex, then that would be his fault, not yours. He has the penis.
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