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writes:A little advice from other guys out there... how can a woman ultimately spice up things in the bedroom? I know every man is differant, but how would like your wife or girlfriend to spice it up? My husband doesn't share his fantasies with me, so I'm trying to figure out ways to keep it fresh without seeming to put too much into it. There are a million things I'd LIKE to try, but getting him to agree is a whole 'nother story. Reply to this Question
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reader, shaleen +, writes (24 January 2009):
shaleen is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well, all of you have a very good point. I do agree that I need to take initiative, and just surprise him with my thoughts. I actually very much like that idea, because it will always keep him guessing! ;)
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reader, LOSTONEla +, writes (23 January 2009):
Start with love and then move to sex - an intimacy interview of each of you would reveal that. Just pick a couple hrs 1 night and ask him what he would like if he could have anything he wanted - and go thru different topics like Vacations, Dates, physical affection, even entertainment and dinning out. Dont give your opinion - just ask questions and let him talk - write it all down - and let him know that you will pick from these things what you want to give to him to express love to him. I did this with my wife, each of us interviewed each other on different nights. Now she cuddles with me in the morning, and I caress her body - well you get the idea. Good luck - you may learn some surprises about what puts him in the mood, and maybe he has some stress from somewhere else in his life that is distracting him and he nneds to talk it out.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Personally, my opinion, but I would not suggest the porn-watching idea. The last thing that you want to do is get your hubby hooked on pornography, which becomes addictive to many men and then begins to affect normal sexual relations. It feeds their natural tendency toward variety, and the next thing you realize is that he keeps whacking-off to all the images.
Instead, become the naughty woman that almost every man would love to have between the sheets. You may be a proper wife, mother and all good and virtuous things in the community and at work, but behind closed doors, let your hair down.
In other words, do any and all the slutty things that you allude to in your posting. You say that "there are a million things" you would like to try. So, what is holding you back? Start doing some of them. If you haven't already, start introducing oral sex activities into your repertoire - And any other kinky things that also may turn you on as well. Consider that nothing should be off limits to a married or committed couple, or any consenting adults in America, and enjoy yourself.
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reader, shaleen +, writes (23 January 2009):
shaleen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, we've tried watching porn together, but we've never tried to copy any of the positions. We've even looked at magezines together and read books and such. I guess I would like him to try out his fantasies, and try out some of mine.
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reader, Western3589 +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Well first ask him if he wants to try somthing new tonight. If he says no then he probably does not feel confident, or he may feel really passionate about sex and does not believe it is neccesary to try new things.
If he says yes then either let him suggest somthing or you. Start slow, like new positions maybe. Dont bombard him with things like anal, kinky, fantasy. Because he might not be ready like you are.
If your having trouble suggesting to him somthing and having him get mad at you or somthing. Try watching porn together. Sounds ridiculous but many couples do this to spice their sex life up. When your watching say," do you want to try that?"
Hope this helped.
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