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writes: I'm in love with a married woman.She has 7 months of marriage. We had sex one night.She loves me but says she will not leave her husband because she does not want to make him hurt.I can't really let go.What should i do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): I make alot more money than him, and we have a deeper connection than they ever had. I also have a higher level of education.
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reader, Cherriepie  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 I think she has a right to pursue whatever she wants, and you have to be adult enough to accept her wishes. Let her go and be happy you got to know her for a while. she has her own reasons for staying with her hsuband and you have to stand back and respect her. It may be a simple matter of money...he probably makes good money and a good catch in that department. Can you measure up to the money he makes? How do you think he compares to you besides the love factor? You may have a bigger dick, but he probably has you beat in every other way. All you can do is let her go, cuz thats what she wants.
Nobody can judge how much she loves him ...its all up to her, and it sure is possible she loves you too, but I think its all about the sex with you, frankly. I'm no angel myself and not afraid to admit I have "loved" guys for being good in bed...and that's all! Those relationships don't last long though, and real love is tested in more ways then sex.
So what's your love foundation with her? What makes you so special in her eyes, and how do you think what you got measures up with her hubby? Ask yourself these questions, sort it out before you think your so special to her.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 She cant think that much of him, to have sex with another man after a few months.
Do you really want to be mixed up with a woman that can do that?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 You ventured into the Forbidden land and you do not know what to do.
You can stay and taste the forbidden fruit and if you are caught , you will have to pay a penalty.
Maybe , you lose an arm or a leg or you may lose your life.
You could simply walk away
The choice is yours.
She is enjoying the best of both worlds.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 You should let go, the faster, the much better.
She is playing you AND her husband. Something must really be the matter if she's already sleeping with someone else after only seven months of marriage. Obviously she doesn't care about hurting him; if she did, she wouldn't be sleeping with you. And then she didn't care about hurting you, either, because I can't believe that it's only now that she discovered she won't leave her husband for you. And it can't be only now that she discovers you want her.
Her mentioning the husband might be a way for her to tell you not to have any hopes that you will have a "real" relationship with her.
By any chance, is she telling you that you can continue to see each other, but "your relationship will never be"? If she is, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. Unfortunately, that is an old line. As old as "it's not you, it's me", or "I have issues".
Just leave her. You'll be glad you did.
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reader, Zane1  +, writes (4 March 2008):
I don't think this relationship is going anywhere my friend. Quite often people will have an affair and tell the person that they love them.But in reality she is probably happy to stay with her husband. Saying I love you is a nice way to save face and not appear to be cheap and nasty.Move on and let her go. Cherish the memory and leave it at that. One thing to remember is that she has shown that she is willing to cheat on her partner ... and you don't want to be the new partner.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 she says she loves you but she is willing to stay with someone she 'doesnt love'? you need to talk to her and tell her that she must do what she wants to do. cheating is always wrong and she knows that. but wat you also need to let her know is that she cant stay with someone she doesnt love - it isnt fair on her husband - doesnt her deserve the chance to be with someone who loves him and is happy with him? wat she is doing is not fair and she needs to let him go to let him be happy.
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