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writes:I've a fiance whom we've been dating since last year.She and i are christians,is it good for us to have sex since most of the time we spent together?We were organising for an outing but how will we spend our time during that outing,will we sleep together and have sex?please advice me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): heya, i have been studying this in my exams and there are many answers.i have looked into it and feel that if you feel that it is right then you should. the class felt that by having sex before marriage you are going into a deeper level with the person and it should feel natural. by having sex you are also getting to konw each other!hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): It depends on what type of 'Christian' you are , how deep is your faith in your religion and which kind of denominations you follow.Those factors will have a bearing on whether you believe in premarital sex or not?Are you strong in the faith ? Do you fear God? You need to find out your partners stand or believe as well.God said if you cannot stand it , then you should get married.God understands us humans. Do not follow what others preached to you or follow precepts blindly.If you feel wrong , then don't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): Your religious beliefs, your relationship.
My own philisophy asks me to stand before my god at the end of times and justify myself. Frankly any god worth worshipping in my view could care less about the sex and instead would ask me how come that I grew fat on sweets while millions starved during my life.
Wait for marriage or screw everything on legs. Do what YOU feel is right and YOU can in later live look back up on and say "I did what I thought was right".
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (22 February 2008):
 I think it is very sad when religions dictate to people on how to live their lives. Its your body,your mind,your business and your life, nobody but you and your fiancee should say in the matter.
I am Christian too, and I live my life the way I choose.
Life is far too short worry about what other people might think. I think sex plays a very important life in a commited relationship. Hope I have been of help, Dusky xxx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): I thought you said you were christians!If it says that it is frowned on the why would you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): I suggest you don't...If she gets pregnat before you get married, it looks kind of slutty. Pre-marital sex is frowned upon, and some churches won't even let you get married if you already have. I knew and old baby-sitter of mine who had a hard time finding a church who whould let her get married because she had pre-marital sex and had a kid on the way. So, I suggest NOT doing it. However, Danielepew made a point, that's for you two to decide. But most churches will ask you (I think all do actually) and you can't lie to them. So if you want to take that risk, go ahead.I really and honestly don't mean to sound harsh, but I personally don't agree with pre-marital sex. But if you love her and you guys will be together forever, then you guys need to talk about it and decide for yourselves.That's my advice, I don't know much about sex, but having logic and religion and the ablity to do smart things helped me come to this answer~You can use it or not, but an update would be nice! Wish you Luck~ ~Tayune
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 February 2008):
 All Christian churches frown on pre-marital sex. However, I'm afraid this is one area where no church can claim to be winning the battle. I think that your question can't be answered here: that's for you two to decide.
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reader, g247  +, writes (22 February 2008):
This is really up to you.Not being a religious man, I believe in sex before marriage so by my belief system there's nothing wrong with it. I would say go for it, as you'll develop a sexual understanding and chemistry before you agree to spend your life together. Sex is a big part of a relationship for me. I couldn't commit to a woman for life if I didn't enjoy the sex life. I don't mean to sound callous there, just honest.But that's me.It's both of your religions, your lives and your choices.Talk to her and see how she feels about it then move from there.
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