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writes:I recently had sex for the first time but i dont know if i should tell my mum or not, i dont want her hatin me for it, what could i do?
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reader, SouthernBelle  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 I think that telling your mother that you lost your virginity is a personal choice but in my opinion I would tell her. I am around your age and when I told my mother that I lost my virginity it strengthened our relationship and she was glad I told her. She said it was better to have told her than for her to find out when I was holding a positive pregnancy test in my hand. Every parent is diffrent, she may get upset at the fact that her daughter isn't a little girl anymore, but I doubt she will be mad at you. If she does get mad at you it won't last for long. Just remember that things are never as bad as you think they'll be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Absolutely tell her! She is your Mother..she loves you no matter what! If she is 'mad' it won't last long..at it won't be so much that she is mad at you , but because she is concerned for her phyical health (did you use protection???) and for your emotional health ! You need to have her on your side throughout your life..so share who you are ..ask her questions..ask for her guidance...she will alwasy Love you no matter what.
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reader, carebear +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Hi posterYou have asked a very good question in todays day and age, how old are you? If you are really close to your mum and have a longterm boyfriend they maybe I would drop hints and let her know that you have taken proper measures not to get pregnant. Yes legally you are allowed to have sex ( atleast your not in the 10-15 brackets) but you might not be mature enough to deal with this kinda stuff (some adults aren't maure enough lol)I have 2 daughter 24 and 17 they don't tell me everything (thank god) but I knew when my youngest was going to have sex not exactly lol but you know what I mean its great if you can talk to your mum as she will always look out for you yes she might be mad but she will never hate you and sometimes it does bring you closer.Take care
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Listen to your conscience. Do they trouble you and give you no peace?
If you don't feel peaceful and you feel troubled, then tell your mom.
Not every mother is the same. Only you know what your mother is like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): What your mom doesn't know won't hurt her. I never told my my mom when I lost mine - its a personal thing and they don't need to kno...
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reader, lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions +, writes (18 February 2008):
 if you are over the legal age then you shudnt worry about it to much she cant literally hate you for it its a fact of life every one will lose their virginity at some point in life and your mum lost it hasnt she so the best option is to tell her good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): NO WAY!!!! Parents dont need to know that one, i certainly dont want to know when my kids lost theirs, that is personal to you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 It's a personal thing. I don't think I would tell her. She doesn't need to know.
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reader, polarkite +, writes (18 February 2008):
 It's a dilemma. I never trusted my dad to talk to him about something like that, and thought him too foolish. So I wouldn't, but that's just me and my crappy parents. Some people have nice parents. I guess thing you really gotta ask yourself, whenever making any revelation to someone about yourself, is what do I stand to gain? If you only stand to lose, it's best to just keep things to yourself, and share with someone who can help or appreciate the info.
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reader, mm2u +, writes (18 February 2008):
Hi.If you feel that it is an important thing, then do. If you feel that she may get angry, then maybe put it off for a few months. Maybe try sitting her down. If it was a boyfriend that you had sex with and it was quite long term or for a few months, then tell her, she will probably be comformatable with it. I can see that your 16-17 years old, so she has no control if you have. She will probably of expected it seen as your over the age of consent.Hope i was of helpRate my answer please =)x
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reader, faith_believe_love  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 hello dear, its just so simple if you dont want your mum to hate you then dont tell it to her.take care.
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reader, Nataliejamez +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Losing your virginity is nothing to be ashamed of. It's one of the key subjects that can make a mother/daughter much stronger. I remember when i lost my virginity, I was scared to tell my mother because i was scared she would be mad at me and give me a really hard time. However when i told her , she appreciated that i had been honest and that i was comfortable enough to go to her. It let's her know that you trust her , and that whenever you have a problem you would turn to her. She will know what you are going through it's a scary time for any girl, I think the worst thing you can do is keep it too yourself. X good luck X
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): It all depends on the circumstances. I didn't tell my mum when I lost mine because I've been in a long term relationship and I think she has already presumed. And to be honest, I don't think she would really want to know. If it was a one night stand, then I can understand that you might think your parents will hate you, I'm sure they may disagree with what you have done, but I don't think they will hate you. Good luck with whatever you decide.
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reader, doafreak +, writes (18 February 2008):
 hi
In my oppinion Tell her but only if she asks. If she doesn't want to know she doesn't need to.
hope this helps
Brad
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