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writes:Okay, so I think i may be gay. Gay porn really turns me on but I feel so gross. Its not because I'm gay, its because I fantasize about my highschool mates raping me. Is that wrong or are there others like me. And another question: how do I know if a guy in my class is gay too? He kept telling me at this party that we were going to spoon, I thought he was kidding but later that night he slapped my ass and offered me 20 bucks to suck his dick, but I was too drunk to do that so I just left. Is he gay or just joking? Thanks.
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reader, lboy  +, writes (29 June 2008):
 dear reader,
watching gayu porn doesn't make you gay, and as for the fantasies, your not the only one and trust me ive heard worse ones, if this guy was tryin to pay you to give him head then there is a chance he is gay or was just horny or very very drunk lol, the best thing to do is take sometime, live your life like normal and see how things go, just take what the world throws at you and trust me, if you are gay then be proud about it, dont throw it in peoples faces, just tell the people you trust and if it gets around school then be proud, trust me i know from personal experience that opnce your out the threats and the taunts are nothing, cos no-one can cause you pain unless you let them, if someone squares up to you wanting a fight if you know that you can take them out, then just try and walk away if they throw the first punch then floor em thats what i did and after 2 or 3 fights no-one would dare taunt or tease cos they knew they'd get a gob full or if they took it too far a face full of fist, trust me, just take some time, figure your life out, figure out what you want, and be proud of yourself whatever you may be, it's no-ones business but your own, just make sure you find someone that makes you happy and that you know will do anything for you. well thats all i have to say.
all the best luck
lboy
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): You might be gay, you might not. It's perfectly fine either way, so don't worry so much. Go with the flow for a while, socialize, have fun, go to school...just *live* in general. At your age boys are turned on by just about anything. As you get older you'll figure out what you really want sexually.
Be careful who you confide in about your sexuality. Teenagers can be extremely cruel. Your peers might ostracize you or tease you or even physically beat you if they find out. I'm not trying to scare you, I just want to warn you. Don't tell anyone that you don't trust. Many, many mature and intelligent people will accept you if you're gay, many immature and ignorant people will not.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (28 June 2008):
 hey sweetie, well it does sound like you are gay but you are still so young and are still growing so you may just simply be confused about your sexuality. many people have different fantasies - when you fantasize about being raped, is it violent in any way? or is it group sex that you are more focused on? you should not feel gross about being gay at all though, it doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you! as for the other guy, he may be gay, but there is also a chance that he may have been trying to get it out of you that you were too, so be careful cos he may be trying to prove something. dont you worry hun, there is nothing wrong with you, but if you do wanna talk just email me xxx
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reader, soraya +, writes (28 June 2008):
hey, im pretty sure that your gay by the sounds of things and there is nothing wrong with your fantasy. alot of people get turned on when it comes to rape, its not about rape itself, its about the power that is held.
the only way to find out if this mate is gay is to ask him but dont tell anybody your gay untill you are ready and you feel comfortable with yourself. at the moment it doesnt sound as if you have accepted this yet and even more so you might not be gay, you might just be going through a phase. give it some time.x
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reader, no_issues  +, writes (28 June 2008):
 Anything you fantasize about, there are other people that fantasize about it too. Lots of other people. That's why they call it "the internet."
If being gay disgusts you, then call yourself a straight guy who likes gay porn, wants to give head, and get fucked by men. Call yourself the Pope. It doesn't matter what you call yourself. What matters is what turns you on. If you know that, then you can figure out how to get it.
Good luck, and be careful not to get the crap beaten out of you by the wrong person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): Well no it does not mean you are gay, for your age its normal, puberty makes you do lots of crazy things, like gay porn, guy at your age get trurned on over anything, there is no need to worry.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 If your reason not to give the other guy fellatio was that you were "too drunk" to do it, then you're gay, pal. The idea of fellatio for another man does not shock you, as it does shock heterosexuals.
There does seem to be something wrong about the way you see sex. First, I don't think anyone actually wants to be raped. Gays do want other men, but I don't think rape is on their minds. On the other hand, you don't seem upset that the other guy offered you money. Taking money for sex is different from being gay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): i think the guy at the party was joking about with you. you need to stop looking at gay porn and let your feelings grow about your sexuality naturally (and without that gay porn influence!). it doesnt matter if that guy was gay or not- or any other person for that matter. you need to concentrate on yourself. you are only young and shouldnt be thinking about your sexuality. you should be having fun and enjoying your youth. when you do go out and have fun, socialise, you will slowly learn more about yourself. you need to learn about life, when you do, then you will understand what makes you. you need to learn from yourself who you are and what you believe in. you cant influence your life at your age. you may be gay, which is totally acceptable and normal. i just dont think you should be thinking about your sexuality just yet, you need to grow into yourself to understand who you want to be. go and enjoy your life and dont worry about your sexuality! i do think its a bit wierd that you fantasize about your highschool mates raping me. i think that you should talk to someone about that. you need to let go of all the thoughts you are having, or have been having and just enjoy your life and you will learn whats normal and whats not. be honest to yourself too- everyone knows whats normal and whats not.
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