| Latest articles: For all women
This question has 6 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
Just some fun!
This question has 11 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
|
"Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser". Why do they talk like that?
Q. Why is it i constantly hear women with young male children, speaking to another woman. OOOH he's a proper lad he's going to be a bit of a one with the women, then a beaming smile. Like whats this all about? Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser?...
A. 30 May 2008: I always forget things. Where I live, there's this "colorful" expression: "Keep your hen in a safe place; my rooster is on the loose". If we even have a saying about it, do you think this hasn't been happening for long?... (read in full...)
"Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser". Why do they talk like that?
Q. Why is it i constantly hear women with young male children, speaking to another woman. OOOH he's a proper lad he's going to be a bit of a one with the women, then a beaming smile. Like whats this all about? Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser?...
A. 29 May 2008: I respect other people's opinions, and I'm sure they are speaking from their hearts. However, the women I've heard saying "my son is a womanizer" or "he must be gay because he didn't sleep with me" (even if the man is married or otherwise TAKEN), ... (read in full...)
Why do some men wear a band around the penis during sex?
Q. Does anyone know why some men wear a band around the penis when having sex? Does that really help with erection problems or something like that?...
A. 29 May 2008: For the curious, that ring can also damage the penis. Essentially, it prevents the flow of blood from the penis back to the heart and lungs, where blood gets oxigenated. That is, you're sort of choking your little Peter. Do you still like the ... (read in full...)
I was happy sleeping with other men to please my husband, but he doesn't want me to anymore.
Q. after we had been married about five years, my husband told me he wanted me to have sex with other men and he wanted to watch. i told him i didn't want to, but he begged and begged me to do this and i finally told him i would. he brought home a ...
A. 29 May 2008: Is this a real post?... (read in full...)
Is he being honest with me over the reasons for our breakup?
Q. I am devastated and I need an opinion...I met this guys 5 years ago while I was travelling. I fell for him and I believed he fell for me as well. It was my first relationship with an older man and because our cultures and language backgrounds were ...
A. 29 May 2008: In my opinion, he knows full well that he did wrong, but he is saying goodbye. I think you should move on and find someone who won't treat you like this.
All the best.... (read in full...)
What's the name for this position?
Q. what's the name of the sexual posistion where you place the lady's legs on to a man's shoulders while he kneels down during intercourse?...
A. 29 May 2008: You're right, poster.
:-)... (read in full...)
We have a son together, and I just found out he's been married for two years!!! What should I do?
Q. What should I do? I met John 6 years ago. We both worked for the same hospital. Within first year of dating I got pregnant. He always said we were going to get married and be family. In time I got pregnant 2 more times but miscarried. Shortly after ...
A. 29 May 2008: I'm really sorry for you and for your son, Nikitia. I can really relate to what you're feeling.
For the time being, I guess all you can do is wait. Maybe John will get in touch with you. After all, he has a son; and, by all the looks of it, h... (read in full...)
I have a working, open marriage. Could I have scared off a guy I met?
Q. Hello, I need some help. Here's the deal my husband and i have an open marriage. We love eachother, and this WORKS for us. I met a guy at the bar one night as i hung with my sister. He was an amazing looking man nothing happened that night. I...
A. 29 May 2008: Yes, maybe you scared him. Getting involved with a person who has some sort of a commitment can mean serious trouble. My guess is he thought he doesn't need that kind of problems.... (read in full...)
I never have an orgasm. Is he really having one?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have now been having sex for about two months. Each time he cums but i never have an orgasm. Is there anyways to help this, as i enjoy it but i want to orgasm. does it help the guy if i orgasm? Also is cuming a guys orgasm a...
A. 29 May 2008: To what the guys have said, I would only add that there's plenty of advice in this area here in Dear Cupid. Check the articles and you'll find some gems.... (read in full...)
He wants to try a new sex position. Is he bored with me?
Q. me and my partner of 9 months have only recently started to have sex. about 2 months but we use the same positions. He wants to try a new postioion does this mean he is bored? x...
A. 29 May 2008: Of course no. Keep having sex and you'll see we're telling you the truth.... (read in full...)
"Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser". Why do they talk like that?
Q. Why is it i constantly hear women with young male children, speaking to another woman. OOOH he's a proper lad he's going to be a bit of a one with the women, then a beaming smile. Like whats this all about? Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser?...
A. 29 May 2008: Oops! As to why some women would say this (not most women, of course) we would need to ask them, specifically. Double standard, they call it.
Have you also heard it in the other "flavor", "He didn't even respond to my advances. I'm sure he'... (read in full...)
"Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser". Why do they talk like that?
Q. Why is it i constantly hear women with young male children, speaking to another woman. OOOH he's a proper lad he's going to be a bit of a one with the women, then a beaming smile. Like whats this all about? Yipee my son is going to be a womaniser?...
A. 29 May 2008: In my humble opinion, you've hit the nail. This indeed happens. Believe it or not, I've even heard one woman say this to her son (who, by the way, has six children with four different women): "I told you to come where no one would know you, but, ... (read in full...)
Do many guys have this obsession with sex?
Q. I have never ever experienced anything like this before. I met a guy in 3 months ago went on a first date who was the perfect gentlemen went home and ended up having sex. We contacted each other the next week, then left it for a couple weeks ...
A. 29 May 2008: In this case, he found you amazing even without your telling him. But I guess I'm right as to how he thinks. If you tell him to get lost (of course, in a more polite way), he will.... (read in full...)
I slept with my wife's sister and best friend, one is now pregnant...what can I do?
Q. Hi all This is all a complete mess!!! I slept with both my wifes sister and her best friend and dont know what i can do now. They both came onto me and are so hot that i could not resist either of them... The problem i have now is t...
A. 29 May 2008: Well, the baby is coming. You need to find a way to help support him or her. Pray he or she doesn't have a strong resemblance to you.
Don't sleep with any of those two women again.
Make your mind whether you really love your wife or not, and... (read in full...)
Do many guys have this obsession with sex?
Q. I have never ever experienced anything like this before. I met a guy in 3 months ago went on a first date who was the perfect gentlemen went home and ended up having sex. We contacted each other the next week, then left it for a couple weeks ...
A. 29 May 2008: You boosted his ego by telling he was the best sex ever for you. All people like to feel they swept somebody off his/her feet. I wonder if I have to expound on how good that makes you feel. He may also think that if he pushes it a little bit ... (read in full...)
Is he giving me a sign that we can reconcile our relationship?
Q. I dated a man for a year and we began a relationship, but shortly after we broke up. I was devastated because I felt that we were doing well being together. We talk sometimes when we see each other. He tells me that I look nice and he still has ...
A. 29 May 2008: It seems he does feel you could reconcile. However, you need to know for sure. My suggestion is to ask him, in a very direct manner, what he means with his words. Something like "All right, you like me and you miss me. What do you really mean by ... (read in full...)
How can I compartmentalise my feelings like a man?
Q. There's a stereotype that says that men are good at compartmentalizing their feelings and actions. I was wondering if anyone thinks that women can do the same? Is this something anyone can learn or is there some reason that men are more prone to ...
A. 29 May 2008: My guess, then, is that it should be easy to be civil to him. Like you said, the poor guy is a wimp. That's it. Over time, we all learn that nobody's perfect, but that can't bother us.
I would say you just have to carry on with your life, no... (read in full...)
What's the name for this position?
Q. what's the name of the sexual posistion where you place the lady's legs on to a man's shoulders while he kneels down during intercourse?...
A. 29 May 2008: If the woman you are with likes it, then you have no reason to worry. If not, then there's plenty of choices.... (read in full...)
How can I compartmentalise my feelings like a man?
Q. There's a stereotype that says that men are good at compartmentalizing their feelings and actions. I was wondering if anyone thinks that women can do the same? Is this something anyone can learn or is there some reason that men are more prone to ...
A. 28 May 2008: I'm not sure whether men can compartmentalize feelings better than women. Maybe that can be true as a general rule, but it might not be so true if you compare one specific man with one specific woman. I've met women who can very much ... (read in full...)
What's the name for this position?
Q. what's the name of the sexual posistion where you place the lady's legs on to a man's shoulders while he kneels down during intercourse?...
A. 28 May 2008: English is not my native language, so I had to do a little search. This is an interesting subject, though, so I don't mind doing the search and learning new vocabulary :-).
According to a web site, this position belongs to the "Buttefly family",... (read in full...)
A scream of orgasm? Or only a gasp?
Q. Is noisiness during sex overdone in films/dvds etc? When me and my girfriend have intercourse we do enjoy it but usually the only sounds we make are some gasps during the act and when I orgasm....
A. 28 May 2008: Uncle Sneaker, you're a smart person. This reminds me of a movie of years gone by, "Porky's". Kim Cattrall, who would later be famous, plays a role in that movie that reminds me of this screaming. Poster, maybe you can rent that movie somewhere ... (read in full...)
I.m afraid my parents will oppose me living with my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend thinks I'm too negative when it comes to finding a solution to a problem. I always say it won't work. When I face a problem, I always want to leave it until I really have to face the problem. I also think about the worst scenario when I ...
A. 28 May 2008: We don't know how old you are, which would be very illustrative here. However, let's suppose you're not a thirteeen year old, but old enough to make your own decisions.
Many people frown on a couple living together before marriage. Where I ... (read in full...)
A scream of orgasm? Or only a gasp?
Q. Is noisiness during sex overdone in films/dvds etc? When me and my girfriend have intercourse we do enjoy it but usually the only sounds we make are some gasps during the act and when I orgasm....
A. 28 May 2008: That happens and is completely normal. I would say that neighbors prefer it that way.
Porn presents you with women who scream at the mere thought that a penis will enter their vaginas. Don't believe that :-).... (read in full...)
I want him back but there's religion, third party and character differences.. help!
Q. My BF and I for 2 years always fight for petty reasons. We belong to different religions. We have huge character differences. His parents have long wanted him to severe ties with me but he risked it all for me and still pursued the relationship. We ...
A. 28 May 2008: I believe that a cornerstone of any relationship is seeing the other person as she or he is, respecting that, and making a deliberate effort to work something out despite the differences. Nobody is just like yourself, and that's so right. There's ... (read in full...)
We have a son together, and I just found out he's been married for two years!!! What should I do?
Q. What should I do? I met John 6 years ago. We both worked for the same hospital. Within first year of dating I got pregnant. He always said we were going to get married and be family. In time I got pregnant 2 more times but miscarried. Shortly after ...
A. 28 May 2008: It is very clear what is going on. He got involved with you, you had a child in the process, but he wanted to stay always at the "friends with benefits and a child" level. Proof of that is he married somebody else.
Now that his wife knows ab... (read in full...)
Friends have too many problems and rely on me too much!
Q. Hi everyone, thanks for reading this! Basically i have two friends who always have things going on, whether it's getting dumped or attacked or someone dying, over the past 5-6 years i feel like i can't breathe between problems. i'm there for the...
A. 28 May 2008: Some people have a good heart and want to help everyone. Over time, their friends and people near them get used to dump their problems over the one person who will solve them. That seems like a good thing to do: you have a problem, you take it to ... (read in full...)
Is it that she doesn't want me but doesn't want anyone else to have me?
Q. I split up with my girlfriend almost a year ago after I found out she was cheating on me. The break up was quite hard as we lived together but although she tried to keep in touch I managed to avoid her. Recently I started replying to her emails and ...
A. 28 May 2008: I believe that both of you are messing around with each other's heads. You can either be together, or not; this whole thing of seeing each other, sleeping, et cetera, and then texting anybody else and finding other people seems to have no point.
... (read in full...)
What are positive ways to get male attention?
Q. I hate that I need it, but I've come to realize that when I'm not dating someone, I obsess about dating someone, anyone. I don't particularly want to date anyone. I don't have the time, and there isn't anyone I like. Still I find that I need male ...
A. 28 May 2008: I'm afraid that getting light-hearted male attention and not hurting "anyone" would require a very delicate balance.
Finding someone who will detect how far you want to go, without any indication on your part, would be very difficult. That's w... (read in full...)
Is he being honest with me over the reasons for our breakup?
Q. I am devastated and I need an opinion...I met this guys 5 years ago while I was travelling. I fell for him and I believed he fell for me as well. It was my first relationship with an older man and because our cultures and language backgrounds were ...
A. 28 May 2008: From your post, it is easy to see you're in serious pain. That makes me wish I could say things that will make you happy, but, unfortunately, I can't.
In my opinion, it's quite clear you're good enough for him. That's why he was able to have thi... (read in full...)
What is a single mom's best bet?
Q. I'm single mom with health issues, my BF wants to buy a house and put my name ONLY on the mortgage and he pays Is this wise? The reason I am having a dilemma: I live in a bad neighborhood, my kids like him, we have been together for 6 years and ...
A. 26 May 2008: I don't know about laws in the United States OR Canada regarding mortgages. However, I think I understand what he wants. If you ever break up, you will pay the rest of the mortgage. He won't have to continue paying it while you live in the house. ... (read in full...)
I have trouble keeping an erection.
Q. hi im a 24 year old man who has trouble keeping an erection.i can usually stay erect for 15 minutes,after that it turns into a semi,another problem i have is i can't ejaculate during sex,i always start off with the first part of an orgasm and then ...
A. 26 May 2008: Well, it was sort of, ehem, clear, that you were sleeping with prostitutes. A young man who lost his virginity when he was 24 won't suddenly become the kind of man who can get 15 women to bed in three months. I didn't want to mention this, as it ... (read in full...)
My wife has always had someone else on her mind. Is our marriage worth saving?
Q. Hi All, I have been married for last Two and a Half years. We have known each other for about eight months before marriage. In those eight months we talked on phone and dated. Since the time we got married, my wife kept nagging about small thin...
A. 25 May 2008: Poster, my answer to your question is NO, there's nothing left in your relationship worth making an effort. You should just concede to her demand for divorce.
What you describe here is a series of difficult problems, one after another. An emoti... (read in full...)
I have trouble keeping an erection.
Q. hi im a 24 year old man who has trouble keeping an erection.i can usually stay erect for 15 minutes,after that it turns into a semi,another problem i have is i can't ejaculate during sex,i always start off with the first part of an orgasm and then ...
A. 25 May 2008: If we divide this problem into parts, we may have a better picture of what is going on.
1) You're young and you can maintain an erection for fifteen minutes. That rules out any physiological causes.
I guess you have not kept a chronograph by... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the 'woman on top position' both for my size and it being uncomfortable after a while...
Q. I'm getting married this upcoming November. although my fiancee and i have been sexually active in the past, we have abstained from actual intercourse for the past year and a half. i've rarely had 'woman on top' sex (one of the things i was try...
A. 24 May 2008: My first thought was that you feel insecure about yourself. Maybe this is indeed the problem. Then I thought that maybe you just don't like this lovemaking position. Some positions you like, some other you don't.
The physical part could be... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has Asperger's Syndrome, and now I think I might have it as well. How do I talk with him about this?
Q. My boyfriend (let's say J) has Asperger's, and recently, I've been starting to question myself, as a lot of our similarities lie within his AS traits. It's easy to talk to him about most things as he seems to be able to relate to them. For examp...
A. 24 May 2008: Other agony aunts have pointed out that you tend to resemble people you spend a lot of time with. I will add that Asperger isn't a syndrome you can catch from somebody else :-).
It seems to me that you're simply feeling insecure. Maybe you have... (read in full...)
I'm having a baby. I feel my lover is neglecting me.
Q. Sometimes I feel extremely unhappy with my lover mostly because I feel that he is neglecting me on an emotional level. Physically he cares for me superbly and I could't ask for someone better. He buys me everything I could want and/or need. He has ...
A. 23 May 2008: Dear poster, your husband isn't neglecting you, not even at an emotional level. He has a problem controlling his anger and checking what he says before he speaks; but he isn't neglecting you. Perhaps you need more affection than he shows, but, ... (read in full...)
Was she really meeting her father? Am I just being paranoid?
Q. Last week my girlfriend of about one year arranged to meet her father last night. She seemed very excited, its not often they get together despite living in the same city. She came by to see me after work, and went off to get a shower. The hot water ...
A. 23 May 2008: I don't think you're seeing things. Her story just doesn't add up. It is very, very likely that she's involved with another man. If you follow her story, she went to see her father (that takes some travel time), he cancelled, she returned home, ... (read in full...)
Are women not attracted to shorter men?
Q. i have heard a lot of times that women naturally are not attracted to shorter men than them or they tend to look down on them maybe with disrespect. how true is this, ladies?...
A. 23 May 2008: I will add that "short" is a relative term. "Short" here means 1.60 meters. 1.7 meters is quite normal, close to average. 1.80 meters (your six feet, Oldersister) is "very tall". So, if you ask this question to women around you, they will all ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me to "grow a pair fo balls". She is leaps ahead of me.
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years and lived with her for 6 of those years. I suffer from depression and am known to cut off from the world and lately she has been getting on with her university and making friends and I have just been a bit ...
A. 23 May 2008: I'm sorry to say this, but a woman never tells you "to grow a pair of balls" in a playful way. They always mean every word of it.
I think, however, that she may be wrong in her understanding of the situation. Just as you can't grow testicle... (read in full...)
Should I just accept him making new beautiful female friends?
Q. I have been with my Boyfriend for just under 6 months. We are very much in love and are planning on marriage and children. He is a beautiful person and everything I have ever wanted. We have been in a long distance relationship from the ...
A. 19 May 2008: I agree with the other poster. It doesn't seem he's just being friendly, but he's picking women up.
Just as a word of caution, if a male befriends someone, occasionally it can be an attractive female. Neither her beauty nor his being with you... (read in full...)
I'm stringing him along before I end it, is this wrong?
Q. I've figured out I am being strung along and I think I will just string him along. I've stopped the sex and have become unpredictable and unavailable. He doesn't seem to like that much. Am I wrong for doing this for a few weeks before I end it?...
A. 19 May 2008: Yes, you are wrong in doing this. Since you have determined he is stringing you along, the best course of action is simply to end it. Doing that is always wrong. Another wrong does not make a wrong right.
Take care.... (read in full...)
My ex says he has feelings for me but does not want a relationship?
Q. My ex says he has feelings for me but does not want a relationship at the moment...he gets jelous if i even talk to one of his friends. we had sex one time,and afterwards hes been cold and distant when we hang out,and we havent even made out or a...
A. 17 May 2008: I guess the right answer here is that he doesn't want a relationship. Whether he has feelings for you or not is irrelevant, in the end. He's not with you.
Maybe he felt like sleeping with you again, and now is afraid of what it might bring al... (read in full...)
Should he have stayed, under any condition?
Q. My boyfriend was the one who gave me my first kiss. He lived in the neighborhood and hung out with my brother. He was the first boy that kissed me. Years later I saw him out and that was that. Then, about 2 years ago I got sick. I told him to ...
A. 17 May 2008: Why don't you talk to him and apologize if you said something rude? You can tell him you didn't mean it; you said it because of your disease. That would help a lot, I guess.... (read in full...)
| *anielepew's friends
These are mutual friends, so *anielepew has
added them and they have added *anielepew!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
