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writes:Hi there, i'm 16 years old, and i've been dating this girl for about a month... We started staying over each others house's, and we gradually got further (sexually) each time, untill the first night when we both decided we wanted sex... So, after having a semi/full erection for about an hour whilst hugging/kissing etc, we began taking off our clothes, everything is going smoothly lol... Then, i get out the condom, took about 5mins to get it on lol, but i could feel myself losing my erection, and had almost completely lost it by the time i put the condom on... So im sitting there, next to my unsatisfied girlfriend, at about 3 in the morning, embarrassed as hell lol.. I thought this would just be a one off, but the following week, the same thing happened!!My girlfriend is being very understanding about it all, but its still very embarrassing.I'm a virgin, but my erections have never cause any problems in foreplay with my girlfriend, or any other girls.So i guess my questions are:- Is This Common?- Should I See A Doctor?- Any Tips For Putting A Condom On lol?- Any Tips For Keeping The Erection Hard?Need Answers Quick, She Is Staying Again This Weekend, And I Dont Want To Let Her 'Down' Again lol !!!!... Cheers x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): It has happened to me first time! I was also 16 and scared to death. My girlfriend was good person and she understood I was virgin. She didn't leave me, was patient and understanding. When I realized she loved me a became relaxed and we had enjoyable sex for many months till I left to serve army. It is all about trust! I have 38 now, I am married with kid and always have very strong erections with my wife. But many times in past, with every new girlfriend I had, I had problems with my erection in the beggining of the relationship. Basicaly, if you don't know girl good, you don't trust her, you are not bale to relax and it is very natural. Also, maybe you are not aware that you have very strong but subliminal fear of sexually transmitted diseases. You probably also have a strong fear of rejection: it is fear that you are going to be left and humiliated if you fail to provide good sex and without erection there is no sex at all. After army I had a girlfriend who was a bad person. She was only one in my whole life to humiliate me anf hurt me very bad. After army I had some experience and with that girl I had strong erections but I failed to satisfy her. She dumped me after week or something. She was extremly beautiful and I was desperate. Later, I realized problem was in her not me because I have many nice, enjoyable, romantic relationships after. JUST TRY TO FIND NICE PERSON FOR A GIRLFRIEND! Her personality is more important than her look. When you love a girl, trust her, she loves and trusts you, believe me, you will not have problems staying hard. Just relax! If you fail to have strong erection it maybe means you are not with right girl.
My answers to your questions are:
Q: Is This Common?
A: Yes!
Q: Should I See A Doctor?
A: No! You don't need one! Just take some regular sport or exercises to shape your body to boost up your self-esteem and to lower a level of everyday stress!
Q: Any Tips For Putting A Condom On lol?
A: Use the Condom or you both make AIDS test. There are however many dangerous viruses and bacterias that are not so easy to detect but may cause a lot of problems. Use the Condom! If you think your girl is not promiscuous and only after you stay together for at least 6 months and if you think she's healthy you can tray with no Condom. You will enjoy it but don't forget she may become pregnant easily.
Q; Any Tips For Keeping The Erection Hard?
A: Just get relex. When you forget everything about erection, when you stop thinking about it you will have strong hard erections. When it starts happening natural, easy, with no effort at all, without fear and mistrust - it will be great!
Just few more tips:
1.) Use no porn! Why? Because girls in porn business are too perfect! If you compare regular girls with them you will be always alone or you will start picking whores, strippers or girls who are a very bad luck. I don't say you shouldn't fall in love with beautiful girls. I say that porn could form a bad taste for girls! If you watch porns you will like girls who look like porn starts and they are just bad luck - you will suffer!
2.)Don't masturbate if you are in relationship at all! I didn't do that for decade or more - i don't have to :-) If you don't masturbate, you will have stronger erections.
3.) If you are in loving relationship and have problem with erection, speak with her! You must tell her you love her bacause young inexperienced girls will think you don't love her or don't find her attractive. Tell her honestly you are just in panic because you are under enormous internal pressure to keep her and satisfy her needs. Tell her that you know iti is normal and need some more time to relax. Then don't plan sex with her, just let it happen naturaly.
4.) Everything is going to be fine. We older guys know that problems with erections are normal and natural. The time and experience will heal that problem.
5.) You maybe need some older guys for friends to talk about girls with them. Most of them will lie to you about their glorious sexual vicotries and achievements but eventualy you will find few of them honest, benevolent and realistic. When I say older guys regarding you are 16 I mean 18-22 years old guys but even they are not experienced and wise enough.
And... No! You are not a gay like gay said!
I hope I helped you!
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reader, Alex Wooten  +, writes (6 August 2008):
Your problem probably isn't psychical, I think it is most likely because you're a huge homo. Only a queer would sit there with a fin ass honey and not get the biggest fuckin' boner they've ever had. But don't fret, I too am a big faggot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): I have the same problem keeping it hard after some foreplay the doctor advised me it was just like stress anxiety or even depression either that or your totally not into your girl and need to find some one new that might keep you excited
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reader, Hench +, writes (28 June 2008):
Don't worry about it mate, it's a common thing with younger guys involved in a sexual relationship, maybe you should take more time in 'getting to know her' and then maybe you'll feel more confident, and won't lose you erections...Maybe you should, as Danielepew suggested, use 'Sensitive' condoms.Anyway goodluck this weekend, hope all goes well'In Life You Gotta Take Risks'Liam x x
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reader, Marco262  +, writes (27 June 2008):
I'm no doctor, but this doesn't sound like a medical condition at all. Just nerves, most likely. You stated that you have no problem staying hard regularly, and unless you're experiencing pain or any other symptoms, you shouldn't need to see a doctor. Most likely, the sensation of wearing a condom was new to your body and the unfamiliarity caused your body to "turn off". This is a common occurrence, especially for virgins, so don't get discouraged and don't forego the use of condoms next time.
Alternatively, this could be a one time thing. I've been with my girlfriend for four years and there are times when, no matter how turned on I am and how much I want to have sex with her, I just can't get a hard all the way. I'd say, wait a little while, do some more fooling around, and give it another try later.
Lastly, why was your girlfriend unsatisfied?? Whether or not you can get it up doesn't affect how well you can work your fingers and tongue, does it? If you have trouble getting it up again, lay her down on the bed and take some time to figure out new ways to make her cum. Not only is manual/oral sex not dependent on whether or not you can stay hard in a condom, but it shows her that you're dedicated to her pleasure, which can go a long way in increasing the overall intimacy of your sex in the future. And on top of that, the chance of her getting pregnant is virtually nil!
As for putting on condoms, I've found the directions on the package are the best option. If you want, lay on your back and if her continue to stroke/suck you while you get the condom out and ready. Then put it on your tip and unroll it over your length. From there, she can either straddle you for the cowgirl position, or you both can take a few moments to get into any other position you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): hey, just relax,
dont get nervous when it comes to puting it on, perhaps let her put it on for you..!!
have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): oh boy you need to skip foreplay and get in the action as soon as you ready then you can build up more confidence in youself and things will get better i hope your girlfriend will understand
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reader, dave5678 +, writes (27 June 2008):
Agree with the comment from Daniel and good on you for using a condom.
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reader, no_issues +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Time to change your game. If getting wrapped is causing your pecker to lose interest, then you need to do something different to perk it up. Despite what they tell you, not every prick is happy being a well-behaved, sheathed, protected citizen of the modern world.
How would you like it if nobody would shake hands with you without first putting on gloves, and then making you put gloves on too? It would sort of kill the spontaneity, right?
So get right with your girl and get her involved. Add more play and excitement to counteract the buzzkill. Might take some experimenting.
And for pity's sake, don't be in such a hurry. If you're not ready you're not ready. She has to accept that. And now you both know what it's like when the tables are turned.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 It Is Common if You Are Nervous. Tell Your Girl About It. Try Again, and, If Peter Won't Help, Give Her Pleasure in Another Manner. Don't Just Let Her Go Away. I Suggest You Don't Let Her Down, but You Do Go Down.
Don't See a Doctor. We Have Already Told You What He Will Say; Keep the Money for a Good Pack of Condoms, maybe "Sensitive" Ones.
Just To Relieve Your Doubts, Masturbate at Home, Get Peter Hard, and Try Putting the Condom On. You Have To Open the Package Carefully, (You Don't Want to Tear It), Then Pick the Rubber by the Tip, and Unroll the Condom on Your Peter. That's It. It Can Be Done Fast If You Aren't Nervous.
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