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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Another porn problem, with a twist...
Q. OK, so I have a problem and searched it in Google and came across a thread on this site. The dilemma was similar to mine but with some key differences. My would be husband has been looking at porn and just like every other woman poster, it hurts. ...
A. 30 June 2008: Dear poster, I think you're a little insecure about his love, too. The fact that he likes black women, and watches that kind of porn, makes you think that he wishes he could be with a black woman. I don't think so. This is understandable. The ... (read in full...)
Dating him over 8 months and he refuses to let me to meet his family!!
Q. When should you expect to meet his family? We have been dating for over 8 months. I have met his son but no one else. He has met my whole family and alot of my friends. He works with his family in the family business just down the road from my wor...
A. 29 June 2008: All right, q1605 :-). Peace and love (you find your girl and I will find mine)... (read in full...)
Another porn problem, with a twist...
Q. OK, so I have a problem and searched it in Google and came across a thread on this site. The dilemma was similar to mine but with some key differences. My would be husband has been looking at porn and just like every other woman poster, it hurts. ...
A. 29 June 2008: Here's the easiest part of my opinion: yes, you're absolutely right to be upset about his lying to you about the porn. As is always the case, it's best to be honest, open, direct and clear. He shouldn't have lied to you about his watching porn.
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Dating him over 8 months and he refuses to let me to meet his family!!
Q. When should you expect to meet his family? We have been dating for over 8 months. I have met his son but no one else. He has met my whole family and alot of my friends. He works with his family in the family business just down the road from my wor...
A. 28 June 2008: I'm afraid you're wrong, q1605. The Sister is not only a Sister, but also a friend of mine, and I have actually seen a picture of hers.... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 27 June 2008: I just learned that it is called "corn hair" in English.... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 27 June 2008: I'm sorry I couldn't find another song I had for you, Chica Blusera. "My girl with the hair of corn" In case you don't know, corn cobs have long, blonde "hairs". There's this song in which a rough peasant from the remote mountains sings like ... (read in full...)
I love my husband, but I'm attracted to another man, help!
Q. I've been married for over 10 years to my highschool sweetheart. We have two children. He's a good dad and husband. Neither of us have other sexual partners. I am attracted to another man. No lines have been crossed, and I doubt this guy even knows. ...
A. 27 June 2008: Well, poster, I wish you the best. From your update, it seems like you're doing your best and your mutual problem doesn't change. I do hope you and your husband solve it.
As to being attracted to other men, it will happen again. I suppose ... (read in full...)
I love my husband, but I'm attracted to another man, help!
Q. I've been married for over 10 years to my highschool sweetheart. We have two children. He's a good dad and husband. Neither of us have other sexual partners. I am attracted to another man. No lines have been crossed, and I doubt this guy even knows. ...
A. 27 June 2008: I disagree a bit with Lonewolf. Don't "hope" that your husband will notice the great wife he has. That is the same as "hoping" he won't cheat, though all the signs are there. After ten years of marriage, I bet he knows the good woman he has. ... (read in full...)
I love my husband, but I'm attracted to another man, help!
Q. I've been married for over 10 years to my highschool sweetheart. We have two children. He's a good dad and husband. Neither of us have other sexual partners. I am attracted to another man. No lines have been crossed, and I doubt this guy even knows. ...
A. 27 June 2008: Poster, you feel attracted to this man because he is giving you the undivided attention you don't seem to be getting at home. It's not just nature at work; it's also the dynamics of your situation. I won't cast a stone at you, and I don't think ... (read in full...)
I made a joke and he has taken it seriously. Help!
Q. last night i was chatting with my boyfriend on msn and while we were talking about sex I was kidding when I said to him that I just act like I'm pleased after sex with him and I do it just not to make him feel bad. Surely I was just kiding and it ...
A. 27 June 2008: To what the rest of the people have said, I can only add that your words may have sounded like a joke to you, but they didn't sound like a joke to him. I wouldn't reduce this problem to "his hurt ego" or "your carelessness". It didn't sound like a ... (read in full...)
Marriage laws between countries?
Q. My friend has been separated for eight years. Her husband left for France. My friend says her husband married a french woman. (They are separated not divorced.) Can some one who is still married in his own country, marry another one in a differen...
A. 27 June 2008: I understand that international law holds as valid a marriage that is recognized as such in another country. So, nobody can marry anybody else until they get a divorce.
Since your friend's husband committed bigamy (I'm speaking in Legalese... (read in full...)
I love my husband, but I'm attracted to another man, help!
Q. I've been married for over 10 years to my highschool sweetheart. We have two children. He's a good dad and husband. Neither of us have other sexual partners. I am attracted to another man. No lines have been crossed, and I doubt this guy even knows. ...
A. 27 June 2008: I agree with Annalisa. The fact that you're in a very happy and fine-tuned relationship doesn't mean you won't feel attraction for anyone else. So will your husband, by the way. But you just can't go with the winds. I think you would expect him ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to mastubate to my crush??
Q. i think i have a problem...i tend to masterbate when i think about him, because i dont want to have sex before i am married i cant have intercourse with him... and i lack attention, and romance since i havent had a bf, and he just came and filled ...
A. 27 June 2008: What you do is not wrong. I would describe it as "very sweet".... (read in full...)
Does she want me? She says such contradictory things! What should I do?
Q. I met this woman back in February by chance and we hit it off. We live 5 hours apart and the distance made it difficult. We decided to back off and when we see each other the sparks just fly. I am moving there in a month and now she says she doesn't ...
A. 27 June 2008: See it this way, poster. She is free, and she is saying that she "wishes" she were there with you. Why isn't she there? Because she doesn't want to.
I know that right now you're hurting and perhaps wondering if a little more love (thanks,... (read in full...)
Dating him over 8 months and he refuses to let me to meet his family!!
Q. When should you expect to meet his family? We have been dating for over 8 months. I have met his son but no one else. He has met my whole family and alot of my friends. He works with his family in the family business just down the road from my wor...
A. 27 June 2008: You're welcome.... (read in full...)
Dating him over 8 months and he refuses to let me to meet his family!!
Q. When should you expect to meet his family? We have been dating for over 8 months. I have met his son but no one else. He has met my whole family and alot of my friends. He works with his family in the family business just down the road from my wor...
A. 27 June 2008: I know for a fact that the Sister is like the pretty blond girl in the Monster's Family :-). Maybe all the other guys are freaks, but she isn't.... (read in full...)
He dumped me via email! How can I move on and regain trust in men?
Q. I just got dumped today by my boyfriend (now ex, I suppose) of 4 months by email today. He sent it to me in response to my calls yesterday when I had a horrible feeling that he was avoiding my calls. In the email he said that he will still st...
A. 27 June 2008: When somebody is mean with us, we all feel like you do, specially about meeting new people. You know, the fact that he was no good shouldn't ruin your future life. If a good man came your way, would it make sense if you didn't let him in because ... (read in full...)
Dating him over 8 months and he refuses to let me to meet his family!!
Q. When should you expect to meet his family? We have been dating for over 8 months. I have met his son but no one else. He has met my whole family and alot of my friends. He works with his family in the family business just down the road from my wor...
A. 27 June 2008: Sorry, I disagree partially with the good Sis. Sometimes people don't want you to meet their families because they want to get rid of you without any questions. However, the Sis does have a point: maybe his family is the problem. He might not ... (read in full...)
Another porn problem, with a twist...
Q. OK, so I have a problem and searched it in Google and came across a thread on this site. The dilemma was similar to mine but with some key differences. My would be husband has been looking at porn and just like every other woman poster, it hurts. ...
A. 27 June 2008: I'm not sure where your problem lies. I am not clear whether it is his watching porn that bothers you, or the fact that he has a thing for black porn, or perhaps that you're afraid his watching black porn might mean he prefers his ex. Maybe you ... (read in full...)
Does she want me? She says such contradictory things! What should I do?
Q. I met this woman back in February by chance and we hit it off. We live 5 hours apart and the distance made it difficult. We decided to back off and when we see each other the sparks just fly. I am moving there in a month and now she says she doesn't ...
A. 27 June 2008: What the anonymous lady said sounds like the truth to me.... (read in full...)
What counts when it comes to losing your virginity?
Q. I am a bit unsure about other peoples opinion and the cold hard fact about virginity. Right then, i want to start by saying that i believe myself not to be a virgin but i would just like to clear up a few things. My idea of losing your virgini...
A. 27 June 2008: Maybe many people will disagree, but, in my opinion, virginity doesn't have any value in itself. Being a virgin does not mean you're better than anyone else. It doesn't give you a "new" perspective in life. I think that sex would do that, instead ... (read in full...)
Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 27 June 2008: I am with Covent Garden Girl. Maybe you talk more about orgasm because it is sort of more evident than all the rest of bad things that are happening to you. But I think your real question should be whether you should stay in this marriage. Your ... (read in full...)
Should I get involved with this woman with two kids? Can I express to her how mad I am for her past mistakes? Please guide me through this!
Q. Woman with 2 kids, what should I do? We're both 23 years old I'm single and not involved in any relationship yet She's got two kids, one from a relationship from highschool and the other just recent from a three year long relationship. This beau...
A. 26 June 2008: I am in a little disagreement with Yos, though I want to be quick to say that he always hits the nail. This time, perhaps he hit a little to one side.
Sometimes you can't get to love another man's child. Loving the child is different from lov... (read in full...)
I want what's best for my son. Is he too young to choose who he wants to live with?
Q. Hey family! My issue is concerning my son and his father (who I am no longer with because of abusive behavior). For the first 4 years of my son's life, I raised him by myself, emotionally and financially. His father did nothing to show effort in ...
A. 26 June 2008: I think you're doing the right thing in many senses, but I still think that, if your son doesn't want to go to his father's, he shouldn't have to. You know, parents always tend to forget that their children are independent beings. We tend to ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he likes me? Or is he just being a friend?
Q. Ok there is this guy I like but I am not sure he likes me... Ok this guy says he is straight but... I catch him stareing at me all the time and we lock eyes.. He calls me or texts me every day.. He buys me gifts.. He checks on me t...
A. 26 June 2008: I live in Macholand, where people don't really like gay persons and any exchange between males that is not a kick in the balls and five insults per second is grounds to suspect you're gay. So, I have a bias in determining where friendship ends and ... (read in full...)
Why do I always seem to fall for the unattainable guys?
Q. Help! I always fall for the unattainable guys. I've had minor/severe crushes on the following; Karate instructor, teacher, best friends brother, cousin and great cousin. None of which i've been able to have relationships with! It's so unfair!!! I ...
A. 26 June 2008: Relationships between a teen-ager and a teacher are inappropriate. So are relationships with cousins. Why would the karate instructor and the brother of your best friend be unattainable?... (read in full...)
Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 26 June 2008: Dear poster, the issue is not just sex, but control. Maybe he is jealous, is afraid you would cheat, and, instead of giving you reasons not to, sends you to the dungeon and throws the key.
You need to stand your ground regarding his controll... (read in full...)
Am I destined to a life of sexual frustration?
Q. hi all i am 34 years old and i am so sexually frustrated alot as to be honest, my husband does not satisfy me sexually (we rarely have sex) but i cant help but think, is this the way i am going to feel for the rest of my life, being sexual fru...
A. 26 June 2008: Your situation can only have three endings:
1) He understands he's boring and improves his technique. You also do your part.
2) You sleep with someone else, and he either accepts it or leaves you.
3) You stay where you are.
I'm not sure... (read in full...)
Am I an odd girl for not trying girl on girl sex at least once?
Q. Am I odd? I`m a 28 year old girl and never experimented with girls. 80% of the straight girls I grew up with and girls in school and even married girls I know tried this at least once. I mean more than just kissing. Is this common for girls to try ...
A. 26 June 2008: I'm a man and I've never experimented with men. And I'm happy like this.... (read in full...)
Why do women scream during sex?
Q. does sex hurt or do woman scream because it feels good??(growing teen looking for info)...
A. 26 June 2008: Unless you're watching porn, where everything gets distorted. Screaming is not required.... (read in full...)
Should I get involved with this woman with two kids? Can I express to her how mad I am for her past mistakes? Please guide me through this!
Q. Woman with 2 kids, what should I do? We're both 23 years old I'm single and not involved in any relationship yet She's got two kids, one from a relationship from highschool and the other just recent from a three year long relationship. This beau...
A. 26 June 2008: We have a saying in Spanish: if you want the hen, you want the chicken. If you don't want any sort of responsibility regarding the children, don't get involved at all with this girl. You're just looking at her beauty and not at her whole self. ... (read in full...)
Will he think it's weird that he's my first proper boyfriend?
Q. I've just started seeing someone, I like him a lot but I am embarressed because I am almost 28 and have never been in a serious relationship - he wants to talk about past relationships etc but I keep avoiding the questions, do you think he will mind ...
A. 26 June 2008: If he has a brain, he won't mind.... (read in full...)
I want what's best for my son. Is he too young to choose who he wants to live with?
Q. Hey family! My issue is concerning my son and his father (who I am no longer with because of abusive behavior). For the first 4 years of my son's life, I raised him by myself, emotionally and financially. His father did nothing to show effort in ...
A. 26 June 2008: People, hate me: I don't think a son is forced to see his father, or his mother. I do think parents should work for the benefit of children. Something is clearly the matter when your son visits his father. Dig into that. Find out what is going ... (read in full...)
Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 26 June 2008: "Orgasmless", that is.... (read in full...)
Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 26 June 2008: Ooops! Something I forgot. Do you think you can talk to your husband and let him understand how this is affecting you?
If you really can't make it work, perhaps you should really think about your own life and whether or not to divorce. I know y... (read in full...)
Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 26 June 2008: It is easy to understand that no sexual pleasure would make you very unhappy in a relationship. However, it seems like you're rushing things a bit. Your post sounds like you just have no hope of ever having an orgasm with your husband again. It ... (read in full...)
Is sex in a commitment better than one night stands?
Q. hi i want to no if being in a committed relationship make sex more pleasurable to women than casual sex...
A. 26 June 2008: Being in a committed relationship also makes sex more pleasurable for men.... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 25 June 2008: Chica Blusera, aquí te va:
http://es.youtube.com/watch?v=va1TYFeMdeI... (read in full...)
Any straight guys know what its like to give a blow job...?
Q. does any curious straight male know what it feels like to suck a cock? Please tell me as I am interested in experimenting with my best mate....
A. 25 June 2008: My first time with a woman I also called experimenting :-). I still like that kind of experimenting.... (read in full...)
Porn or prostitution? Which is worse?
Q. Is porn more degrading than prostitution? Just wondering what peeps opinions are.do you think that been a porn star or working in a brothel is more degrading? serious answers please...
A. 24 June 2008: Lazy Guy, I will add that you can have a lot more fun with a prostitute than a bank teller :-).... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 24 June 2008: Muchas gracias por el elogio :-), Chica Blusera. No te desesperes que tu momento ha de llegar. ¡Cómo me habría gustado que las gringas que he conocido pensaran como tú!
¿Alguna vez has oído "Carito", de Carlos Vives? Te la recomien... (read in full...)
If I loose weight, will it help me attract guys?
Q. People tell me that I'm not fat, but I would like to lose some weight because the extra pounds on me revolt me. I am going to, for the sake of my health as well as attracting guys, but what I wonder is: if I were to lose weight and improve my ...
A. 24 June 2008: When I see this, I always remember my grandfather's usual line: "But... they are called sins of the FLESH!!"
Women think that the skinnier, the better. That is true sometimes, but not always. If you think you just need to lose a pound or two, ... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 24 June 2008: No hay problema, Chica Blusera. Alguien te aparecerá, pero no te cierres las puertas tú sola.... (read in full...)
Any straight guys know what its like to give a blow job...?
Q. does any curious straight male know what it feels like to suck a cock? Please tell me as I am interested in experimenting with my best mate....
A. 24 June 2008: In my book, if you're a man and you want to give another man oral sex, you're not straight.... (read in full...)
Why can't there just be enough guys for every girl to have a partner?
Q. I would really love to find a boyfriend, but I'm so frustrated. If a guy is desirable, handsome, smart sweet and knows how to listen... those guys are always taken, or they're gay. It seems counterintuitive that someone like that would be single ...
A. 24 June 2008: The good things that you see in a man, other girls see, too, and they arrive first. We men have the same feeling about women: we always feel that the nice ones are invariably taken by some brute. I guess that the very fact that people are born ... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 24 June 2008: Annalisa, you and I are Latin, and we know it, but Americans don't. The poster thinks in English and sees herself as American.... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 24 June 2008: Dear poster, I'm glad I found your question, because I can help you. I happen to be a Mexican man who prefers Americans or Canadians. I can very much relate to what you are saying here: it is not that I don't like women of my own culture, but I ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose-my lover or my wife of 31 years?? Advice needed badly!
Q. hi there. my story is long and complicated. but to give you an idea of what i am going through. here goes. i am married for 31 years with 2 grown up kids. the relationship i have with my wife is good at this time but hasn't always been this way. she ...
A. 24 June 2008: What I see here is a married man and a married woman who are sleeping with a person other than their spouses because that is their way to have one important element that's missing in their relationships. I also think that this relationship goes ... (read in full...)
Happily committed but am dreaming of a guy I worked with. What's going on here?
Q. I am 22 and in a happy committed relationship to a wonderful man. However, I keep dreaming about contacting this guy that I used to work with. Nothing ever happened between us but there was intense flirting between us and there was an intense ...
A. 24 June 2008: I guess that, like you said, you want to feel "those strong mysterious feelings again", because that is very, very nice.
We all have feelings for people we shouldn't have feelings for. We're just human and were made to feel attraction for othe... (read in full...)
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