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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Why does my bofriend keep bring up this topic? Early in our relationship, he asked me if I would ever do a threesome with another girl. I told him "no way! i'm not sharing you!" about a month later, he asked if i would ever consider having sex with a girl, and he has numbers of girls he could call who would gladly accept coming over. again, i told him "never!" well a month ago, we went on a camping trip with another married couple, but before the trip, he asked me what i thought about group sex, and would i consider doing it with the other couple should they ask (which they never even hinted towards anything of that nature). i told him this made me very uncomfortable. each time, he came back with the response "oh, well, i don't want to share you anyway..." if he doesnt want to share me, why does he keep asking? (each time he asked through text messages--maybe he was scared of my reaction?)
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (2 August 2008):
 I am sorry but he does not see your relationship as serious if he has a list of girls ready to do the threesomes with you in his phone. Move on x
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (2 August 2008):
 You have to tell him streight that you are absolutely against it and there is NO WAY he will make you do it !!!
Most guys would like 3 some .. I am personaly truned on by seeing 3 somes in porn movies or so .. but I would never do it, because I am very jellaous person and I will not share my boyfreind. I maigh concider 3 some w another guy, but than I would feel like I am cheating, and my BF would never let me do it either.. so it just stayes in our fantasies...
Some things should just be fantasy and thats all..
I ll tell you something
DO NOT LET HIM MAKE YOU DO IT!! YOu will be absolutely devastated and the relationship will end. YOu are obvilusy not ok with it so just DO NOT DO IT and let him know " I LOVE YOU, I DONT WANT TO SHARE YOU, I DONT WANT ANOTHER PERSON IN OUR BEDROOM AND THATS IT, PLEASE DO NOT ASK ME AGAIN BECAUSE I AM NOT GOING TO CHANGE MY MIND!"
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): Just my 2p worth but you could always ask him how he would feel if you wanted a 3 some with another guy. Perhaps then he might understand your point of view. Then again it could back fire.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): I agree with "Danielepew". Get him face to face and tell him how you feel about these repeated questions.
Tell him face to face that it will never, ever happen and that you've made that VERY clear since the begining of the relationship. Tell him that not matter how many times he asks you the answer will always be the same and that even if he asks over text, it doesn't make it any less horrible for you to hear.
You just need to face him and make sure he knows that when you say "no" you mean "NO"!
Good Luck. x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 He knows this is a difficult subject, so he prefers to do it through text messages.
Of course he wants a threesome and group sex, and keeps asking because he thinks you will eventually give in. I think the only way to stop this is to give a very clear no, followed, perhaps, by a question in this same line, that is, why he keeps asking the same questions if he already knows the answer? does he expect you to give in out of sheer pressure? Why can't he tell that to you face to face? Et cetera. You get the point.
This kind of things never stop unless you cut them short. Do that.
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