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writes:Other people said we looked good together on the dance floor, and we have so much in common its uncanny. we are roughly the same age and just by coincidence he lives in a small town a long way away, but I have a flat that I rent out just virtually down the road to him. he gave me his home address and number and seemed interested, until he said he could see I wanted more, so abruptly said I cant meet him anymore.I have to be led that he has someone, but its a shame that this has gone to waste. my friend said - could it be that he was scared he might start to feel the same way also, and felt he couldnt betray his dead wife's memory?It's silly, just because I liked him more, that doesn't mean to say I said he HAD to like me more. So why didn't he just go ahead and see me - then if necessary finish with me afterwards? If he felt he needed to get out - why stop before it starts? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 I don't think we can really know what crossed his mind. It may have been the memory of his wife, or not. The solid answer you got here is that he doesn't want the relationship as much as you do. I think you should just move on and forget about him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): hello
it is sad because he spent his whole life with his wife. it is understandable that he wants to honour her memory and you shloud respect that.
i think you should still be friends, you should ring him and ask him if he is willing to be friends and maybe go out and take on some hobbies. purley as friends.
see what he says?
love and god bless
friend x
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Well because to some people thier dead wife's memory matters. I know you like this guy but give him a break. If my mom died then i would not get over it very easily either. And im not talking a few years. Im talking private tears after at least 20 years. You can't just invade on his wife's private property. Maybe you should just stay friends ok? That means no flirting and MINIMAL dancing. And maybe after like a few years or so he'll ask you out. Bu its a long shot. You gotta tell him you DON'T like him if you ever wanna meet him again.
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