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writes:What is with the male fascination with porn and cumshots? I guess I don't understand the appeal of it. Maybe some of the guys can explain it. I can always tell when my b/f has been looking at porn because he will pull out during sex and let loose on my tummy or chest. I don't hate it but I also don't see how that is sexy to him. Maybe if I understood it, I could get into it a little more.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 There's probably a deep "Freudian rationale " for it but all I know is doing it and/or seeing it is the turn on of all turn ons. It may be messy but like one girl I slept with a long time ago said," I just love the mess...it's so primal."
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): Hi! Thanks for all the replies to my question. I guess maybe I can see the male dominance angle. I am his and he is marking his territory so to speak. The cum is maybe visual evidence of it? I really don't mind him doing it. I'm not prudish by any means. It just doesn't excite me like it does him. Whether it's on me or inside leaking out, there's cleanup involved. I just wondered what guys get out of that because he couldn't explain it clearly to me. Thanks to all who answered.
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reader, Mark25  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Lots of men find seeing a woman covered in semen a real turn on. It's just sexy to ejaculate on a woman. That's all. I think on this page some people have been over analysing it. It's just a sexy thing to watch and do. Nothing to do with degradation or marking their territory. It all depends on whether you like it or not. If you don't then don't do it. If you do then continue to have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): I don't get it. It feels a lot better to cum inside a girl than on her any day. I think porno has cumshots because at least that proves it was real. I would also love watching a girl get off herself while she's screwing the guy, but those porno chicks are so terrible at acting it takes all the fun out of it.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 I very much agree with the poster who mentions her boyfriend doesn't find sense in ejaculating outside when he has a vagina to do it. And I disagree with the idea of marking the territory, whatever method is used. However, different people have different tastes.
Maybe he just does it because he thinks you like it. Some women have already said they do. Perhaps someone else he was with liked it, too (I'm speculating). Since you don't like it, do you think it would be a good idea to tell him that?
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reader, troysyaussie  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 it is a dominance thing. my boyfriend is extremely dominant and when he gets really going he will do that. it's just something he enjoys watching. he also enjoy's watching himself penetrate me. don't let it bother you. it's actually a turn on for me that he enjoys it so much. atleast he doesnt have his eyes shut the whole time. now that would be an issue of concern :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): "What is with the male fascination with porn and cumshots?"
I have a theory that men like dick more than women do. I mean, after all what's the money shot, the big payoff in porn? It's not the woman convulsing in pleasure with a big dopey smile on her face, is it? No, it's a close-up shot of a guy jerking himself off. Apparently what guys are most interested in and turned on by...is the dicks and sperm of other men. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): My boyfriend said that doesn't do anything for him. He says he can cum /outside/ of a vagina any old time he wants, whether I'm there or not, so why would he opt to do it when there's a perfectly good vagina right in front of him? :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): Watching it spurt out makes the orgasm look as real as it feels.
If you want something out of it as well perhaps the two of you could take a hot shower together afterwards...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): when a guy wanks and comes over me that is the heght of expectation. i have no idea when its gonna happen and when it does it gives me a a buzz. so it must be the same for a bloke to watch all his energy and love coming out.they have all this pent up high just the same as you have and maybe they wanna do things in a different way. some blokes like facial some like tummy some like clit but its a release to wot they are feeling. they must have been horny to do that to u so why are u worried lie bac relax and enjoy
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): I agree with reader anonymous, it's a male marking thing, just like a dog... It makes them think that they've marked you and they have possession. He'll think about it when he's not arround you, and it will make him smile... You could try marking him too. Women do it with nails, they scratch the back and bite shoulders. When you see your mark, you'll smile, because he's yours and he belongs to no one else.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (31 July 2008):
 well i can only HOPE you guys a wearing a condom.so the clean up ( no pun intended ) the pull out method is about as reliable as G.Bush after a massive disaster.its a dominance thing. giving a girl a facial is a form of him showing his dominance, some women find it degrading and humilating.some women love it, some love it BECAUSE its degrading and humliating. lets be honest we all have our own little kinks that do it for us.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (31 July 2008):
 I'm interested to see what other answers you'll get, but I will say this - perhaps he wants to pull out for simple variation!! My boyfriend switches it up, and I really like it when he does. As for why it's sexy? It's always sexy SEEING the orgasm that's been building up for the past half hour... it feels a little victorious. For me AND for him.
I know that doesn't answer all of your question, but just throwing that in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): I don't know what the appeal is for a man, perhaps a subconscious way of marking their territory, so to speak. But I still think it's pretty hot. When a woman gets off, you can't actually see it happen, so when a guy does, that's pretty cool to watch. And sexy. I find it very appealing.
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