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writes:This is just a general question for anyone who thinks they can shed some insight. What makes a man lose interest? I can guess that early on in a relationship it could be that the partner is needy or clingy, too pressurising etc, but I'd like to know aswell as what other factors makes a man lose interest early on, what makes a man stop loving his wife? I noticed a question on here which intrigued me, a man talking about how he does not love his wife, yet she is wonderfull etc. so what exactly makes someone fall out of love with someone??Personally, when I like someone, I find it hard to stop, unless we've broken up.Thank you for any help in advance,Take care. Reply to this Question
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reader, misswalston  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 Unfortunately, people grow apart and fall out of love with each other. It could be someone else, not attracted anymore, unhappy within him or her self. It could be lots and lots of reasons and you still will not pinpoint just one, but the bottom line is that whoever is the receiver of such news now have to figure out what they are going to do with it.........
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 Oh, and one more thing. Sometimes a person finds that he or she is seen as part of the other spouse's plan. That is to say, they might be loved, but, above all, they have fit into a scheme of things. It doesn't matter how perfect the person can seem to be: the interest is gone, simple because the other person feels used.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (5 June 2009):
I posted something on the question you are making reference to. I believe that many things can make you lose interest in someone, even if she's perfect.
Some years ago, a singer in my language sung about how a marriage needed "a touch of insanity". What he meant was that the marriage was so perfect that it was not challenging and had become plainly boring. "Always the same; nothing ever happens here. It's always the same", went the song. What they needed was "a touch of insanity... something absurd, something that will wake us up".
I also know that some people find someone who is great, but is not quite the person they want. Or they do not have quite the life they would have. At some point they think they were lucky to find that person, so they don't complain; but, over the years, they find it more and more difficult to just stay where they are and choose tranquility over happiness. Some people also find they are becoming older, maybe in their early forties, and realize that they don't have most of their lives ahead, and, also, that their relationship is not improving. So they find they need out, to live differently before they die.
If you have someone specific in mind, you should ask him or her. I have given you a general answer, and you can't be sure this is why this person or that person feels how s/he feels.
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