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writes:You've helped in the past so here we go again.The NAVY man. I send him texts saying its over, then he reels me back in and i fall for it. Then he ignores my texts over and over again and reels me back in again. Today I told him he was a jerk, but in much harsher words and it was over. Still he ignores me. He's such a head game player. So here's my question. Why do men not break up with you. I have a male friend who compares it to a dog. They bury their bone and they might not come back to it in 3 months but they know where it is and where to find it when they want it. But i'm looking for someone with real male insight to tell me why not just end it. Thanks.
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reader, Chippy2 +, writes (8 June 2009):
Oh my! I had just posted on why my x keeps texting me when he is seeing someone else. He too would reel me back in and my friends would get fed up with me.
I would say harsh things to him and break up he would ignore my hurt and then wait and pull me back in.
Wait! It is not over yet. I wanted him to change. Then I found out he was seeing someone else but he is still texting! He will never end it. I think there are some guys who have to HAVE someone and dont want to be alone.
Good luck to you. I am thinking tho that you will soon not have hate but be wondering what he sees in the new woman even though you are the one who wanted to end it.
My x is the same it seems. I know now that he was cheating on me and I was the one who was pulling away because of the way he was treating me. He still wont agree it has ended. He wants to be my 'friend' What the heck?
I need to be strong and move on. It is even harder when you think you have been replaced by something far less attractive.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 June 2009):
 It's best if you don't hate him, and just stay away from him for your own sake.
Wish you the best.
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reader, justtellmewhy +, writes (8 June 2009):
justtellmewhy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your help.....here's an update. I believe I have discovered he's dating someone else. When will the hate set in?
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reader, rocknroll +, writes (8 June 2009):
An amusing way you write I must say.
What you present is a generality about one guy that we do not have enough information on to say one way or another.
But to guess so you have at least something, I will say that if he is in the Navy (like my son, so be nice to Navy guys :), he does not control his time, the Navy does, and he maybe told at anytime to do something and he must do so. That is the military. So without knowing his side of it, I cannot say he is playing a game: not enough information to make that determination. But it does sound romantic that he is able to reel the fish in again and again. Don't you think so too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): Don't put up with this behaviour. You decided to dump him,now stick to your guns.
Stop wondering why he is behaving why he is because you will probably never work it out. But you could give some thought to why you allow yourself to get reeled in, or go back on your decisions. That could help you with future relationships.
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reader, shania  +, writes (7 June 2009):
 Get rid of him, the man's a user, he only wants you when he needs sex, after that he disposes you like a piece of nothing, dont be treated like this, your worth more then that.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (7 June 2009):
I don't know why other men would not break up with someone. I believe that most of us do break up when the relationship is truly no good. In this case, however, it seems that he knows he has you where he wants you, and that is the game he is playing. You haven't heard anything about a break-up, but, actually, you have no relationship; it's just a tug-of-war.
You can end this by not letting yourself get carried away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): i'm not the best man expert on the planet but heres what i think ..
i think he doesnt end it because then you will be taken when he wants you. But he only comes back to you when he wants you or something from you, i think you should end it for good instead of letting him use you.
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