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writes:Dear Aunts,Ok long story short. A new guy not too long moved in the hood. He helps run a family business with his dad and bro. I am an active customer. So they are polite and never noticed me or give anything beyond the usual "Good morning/Good afternoon". One morning, I saw him in another town and during work hrs so I asked "Arent you working today" and he said "Yes" then left. The same afternoon, I went to buy stuff from his business and he gave me a huge discount and was looking and smiling at me the whole time. Few weeks after that, he smiles and looks my way every few mins. Today he stroke up a little conversation.My question is his could he genuinely like or be crushing on me? Also, did this only start because I asked him about working that day or is he soo desperate to get noticed that he is just playing it up?
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (10 October 2016):
Hi. Ya, he's smitten. And it sounds really nice.
He's just really really shy when he likes someone. The good news is, once you get together, usually these guys do not fool around at all, and are great to date. They are the opposite of players.
All you have to do is make him comfortable around you. Spend some time where you're doing things together like talking, at his shop, or out with friends. Low stress time together where you'll talk, and have fun together. It's also a great way to build a relationship before you start dating, which usually makes it stronger.
Shy guys like to be comfortable before they start dating. The cool thing is that eventually the male genes take over, and suddenly you have this confident guy around you, a lot just because you like him. Usually those guys are keepers.
And if you want him to ask you out try the proven line "You know I wouldn't mind (or be offended) if you decided to ask me out." (Or some variation) That still lets him be the guy, which makes things easier.
Give him time but spend the time.
I hope this helps
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@11muds11 thanks for your feedback. Yes I found out that he is interested. He smiled soo much and is soo social with friends and other peeps but shy and tight lipped around me. He doesnt even utter a single word loud enough. Mostly uses gestures and stuff.
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reader, 11muds11 +, writes (9 September 2016):
When I'm working, I almost never notice my customers. Even if I think someone is very attractive, it just gets logged in my brain and I go on with my work. If my Dad was there, it would many times more so.
It could be that finally he saw you outside of the office and wholla. Your beauty hit him and he started thinking about you.
Your last sentence is very strange when talking about a guy, and I can't think of one man who ever thinks like that. I think that might be a girl thing. He likes you. There's no doubt about that. If he's a player, that you need to ask a mutual friend or acquaintance to find that out. His actions seem to imply that he's a pretty normal guy, though.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 September 2016):
 Maybe he did not want you to tell his family that he was in another town when he was in fact meant to be working so he was trying to buy your silence. I wouldn't read to much in to it unless he actually asks you out, he may just be friendly. I mean his job is to talk to customers and smile.
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reader, N91 +, writes (9 September 2016):
 I think you're the one overplaying it tbh, he smiled at you and gave you a discount, maybe he's just being polite ?
If you think he likes you then why don't you ask and find out?
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