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writes:Hi, I feel like I need a reality check and I don't have many people in my life to ask for advice or open up to. I was broken up with 2 months ago by the person I loved. The relationship ended solely because of distance and the fact that his job is too time consuming to see each other often. We both acknowledged there were still feelings and he said if things change and he can move closer to where I am it would work out. We're from the same hometown and grew up 3 min from each other.For the first 6 weeks not much changed between us. We texted everyday and I would still go see him. Then over the last week it completely changed. He stopped talking to me unless I contacted him but I know for a fact he's very active on social media sites and talking to other people so it's not that he doesn't have his phone. He promised me there's no one else but hasn't given a reason for the sudden distance. I'm now in what someone once described to me as "short circuit" mode where I'm literally obsessing over him. I feel like I can't let him go and the farther he pulls away the more anxiety I have to want to bring him back. I wake up in the middle of the night thinking about him and what happened. I don't know how to break these obsessive thoughts and give him the space he obviously wants from me. I'm afraid letting go means he will never come back to me. Our relationship was literally picture perfect with the exception of the distance and I thought we were going to get engaged soon. I just don't know what to do.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 September 2016):
 I am glad I could help in some way. Yes am sure what I told you, you already knew deep down. It is tough, and it will be very hard for a while, the only thing is though it does get better in time. It will get easier not hearing from him, your thoughts won't be constantly of him and you will begin to get on with your life without him. It just takes time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Aunt Honesty. I've read your post many times today. Felt like it was the only thing to keep me calm when the anxiety started creeping in of him not talking to me. Really appreciate the response, sometimes it just takes hearing it from someone else to make it sink in. Wish you all the best.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (21 September 2016):
The thing is you don't want to let him go because you are scared he will never come back. But you need to come to terms with the fact that he probably won't come back. Whatever his reasons are, he has ended this relationship. Distance is an excuse, as if you loved someone you would work hard to make it work, you say he is always on social media but never makes time for you, this is all you need to know. He has lost interest and now you need to deal with that. Yes it is difficult to get over a relationship, but you first need to let go, accept that it is over and start dealing with it. Block him from contacting you, block his social media and take some time to come to terms with the fact you are single again. Don't cling on with hope or you will just be miserable.
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