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writes: I am in my 40s and did ask a question previously on here about this man who I had seen at our local coffee shop. The background I used to see him at my local pub but not to talk to many years ago and then he ended up moving to the same village that I moved to (its a small world) because of his work. His son went to the same nursery as mine and also went to the same pub as me in the village (but we never spoke) and then he ended up at the same coffee place as I did. We never spoke but I always thought did I recognise him and occasionally he seemed to look over at me. I decided to leave a message one day to ask him to contact me which he did. Had brief conversations with him by text but at the same time he suddenly stopped coming into the shop and went there at a different time. He would still text me from time to time but said he was in a relationship but no one has never seen him with anyone as he is not with his son's mother anymore. We finally stopped texting, I asked him to delete my number and I deleted him off my phone and then out of the blue in May he text me to say that he had driven past me and I asked how he had my number and he said he happened to find it (he never deleted it and when we got talking he realised I was up near where he lived and wanted me to come over and get it on with him. Unfortunately it was bad timing so I had to decline and said you won't ask me again will you and he replied 'I didn't say that but opportunities are rare'. We text very briefly after that and then he saw me outside our supermarket one day and couldn't face me so pretended to be on his phone so I decided that he wasn't interested so I deleted him again and then he has driven past me a few times again and then text me out of the blue last week to chat and both times he just suddenly got bored and stopped texting me.I am assuming that these out of the blue and nothing in between texts are 'I am bored with nothing to do' texts and he has no real interest in me. I appreciate that I started it off contacting him and I do like him but I assume he is just going to do this every five months. I still him driving around in the village where I am driving or walking but he does try to avoid me so I suppose the only way I can forget about him is to block him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone. I am not lonely just wasn't expecting someone who I contacted to behave like that. I will block him as I know he won't try and talk to me in public so I can forget about him for good.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 September 2016):
 He gets bored and hits you up a couple of times a year, it looks like he has thought about you as a booty call but nothing more, him avoiding you tells you all that you need to know about this guy. Find someone who treats you well and block this guys number from your phone.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (21 September 2016):
 There really isn't much you need to "forget" about now is there. You wrote: "he realised I was up near where he lived and wanted me to come over and get it on with him." He sees you as a potential booty call and that's it. Block him and move on.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (21 September 2016):
 You sound lonely. If you were not, you would not be so grateful for the odd scrap of attention this man pays you.
He is not going to change. He will carry on teasing and then dropping you as and when he feels like it, and you will feel hurt every time.
Find ways of meeting new people. Do something which interests you and that way you will meet people with the same interests and make new friends who will, hopefully, take your mind off this guy.
You deserve so much more.
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reader, wherelifewouldtakeus +, writes (21 September 2016):
 unmitigated creep, he doesn't know what he wants. it does seem like he wants a secret affair the type that entail him calling you randomly when he is home alone to have quick sex and then pretending you guys don't know each other in public.
I mean if that is what you want... by all means keep texting with him back and forth.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 September 2016):
 Sp, OP what exactly is that you like about this chap?
The way he treats you? or his GF (if he has one, she might be an LDR/online GF for all you know)
If he is with someone do you think it's a great quality in a guy to hit on another woman?
I mean really, how well do you ACTUALLY know the man? Other than having run into him a LOT and then texting a bit?
BLOCK his number and look elsewhere for a man to date. He is NOT interested in a relationship with you.
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