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writes:I met this guy on tinder and we got on really well. The same night I met him on tinder we met in person and we hooked up. We have hooked up 3 times in the past 6 days. After every time we hook up we would have long and sometimes feel conversations about ourselves and family. We have quite a lot in common. In our last conversation he talked about how he still loved his ex (they never got together). But I think I am starting to fall for my tinder hook up and now I am kind of regretting hooking up with him and wished I waited. Is there even the slightest chance he will want to date me and maybe have a future with me? Or does he think I'm just a another girl to hook up with?
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reader, beautyincolor00 +, writes (29 November 2016):
My guess is if he hasn't taken you out on dates or shown any other romantic interest in you, he's comfortable with just the way things are. Don't take the pillow talk for anything more than it is. He's told you he's not over his ex. Somebody who likes you for more than a hook up wouldn't divulge that information to you.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 November 2016):
 Please be careful. You barely know each other, you did not take the time to date and went straight in to hooking up. You have hooked up three times, and he has told you he still loves his ex. This to me says that this guy is not ready to date, hook up and have fun yes but not date.
Talk to him. Look you are starting to develop feelings after a week, so imagine what it will be like if you wait to see what happens. Be honest with him. Tell him you want more than a hook up and ask him is he interested in dating someone or just looking for casual! Don't allow yourself to get hurt.
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reader, srp94 +, writes (27 November 2016):
 I'm in the exact situation as you. Except I already know he's not interested because he never asks me out to do other stuff than just "chill" in his room. He only texts me to hang out when he wants to hook up. If I ask him to hangout to do something (movies, eat etc.) he'll make up an excuse like he's working but I know he isn't because I'll check his tinder location and he's 8miles away (his house). But I can't be mad at that or give him a scene because I didn't intend to catch feelings and he didn't either. For now I'm just enjoying his company while it lasts lol. I still get sad though because I really like him but I know I'm just a hookup :(
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reader, N91  +, writes (27 November 2016):
 Ask him, there's no way for us to know.
I will say that you're going to look very devalued in his eyes considering you gave it up the first time you met each other which will lead me to say it's probably not looking too promising.
I'd never date anyone that I slept with the first time I met them.
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reader, The unstable entrepenour +, writes (27 November 2016):
Well it sounds to me like you're getting feelings for him, and by the sound of your conversations, perhaps, maybe he feels something similar (the long personal conversations). If I was you I'd start a conversation with him next time you meet, before getting it on, and try to define this. If he feels something, he might appreciate the gesture; if he doesn't, then good, now you know and you can decide what to do. Feelings are hard to get rid off, so if it turns out he doesn't like you back like that, then I'd suggest to just get rid of him and move on before your feelings deepen. You can always find another hook-up buddy on Tinder
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reader, WickedPoet +, writes (27 November 2016):
 I really think you should proceed with caution here. He is telling you that he still loves his ex. That tells me he is not ready now for a relationship that is about a possible future with you. He is still dealing with a past relationship. You are still very young, and, while you don't say how old the guy is, I am assuming you are close in age. It is easy to confuse lust with love if you lack experience in serious relationships. If I understand you correctly it seems that you have known him less than a week but think you might be falling in love. We have all been where you are. Take your time. Protect your heart and your body and discover who you are and what you want. It will take a few wrong decisions before you find someone who will help you become the best version of yourself.
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