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22-25,
*ercretive
writes:Hello. First of all, I have a friend and she is a lesbian. We still hang out with each other. I kind of like her but I didn't show it to her cause I don't want to break our friendship. One day, when she surprisingly visited me in my house, we hang out again like there is no tomorrow. After that, I was gonna tell her that I like her more than a friend but deemed it otherwise since she said that "it's better to have a relationship as friends than lovers." I was hurt but I realised that I don't have every rights since she is not mine and I respect her every decision.I kept on praying that my feelings would worn thin and luckily it did. I'm not that heartless, it's just that I just don't want to ruin our friendship. I kept chatting on every girls in facebook and fortunately I found one but we're not in a relationship. I kept on telling my lesbian friend that I already found the one she was like "okay" and then she turn her head to other direction.One night, she chatted on me and no doubt we had a great convo. We kept on joking, until I told her to chat her later coz i'm gonna wash the plates and I waited her reply. I was kind of confused of her reply. She said and I qoute "Okay. Be careful so that you won't get hurt. Tell your girl that you're going to wash the plates. Who is she again? You know the girl that you showed me the picture? Forget about her finish your work." I didn't exactly know on what she mean since I wasn't chatting with the girl I like and she brought her up. So, I didn't reply since I'm confused.Is she jealous or not?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 November 2016):
 Are you trying to make her jealous? Are you wanting to be in a romantic relationship with her? Are you a lesbian?
Look you are young and you might not know what you want at the moment. But don't play games with other people. If she is not interested in you romantically and values your friendship more then listen to her. Don't try and analyze what she says to you so that you think she wants to have a relationship with you. She might be jealous that your friendship might not be as close because you are dating another girl. You should have just asked her straight out what she meant and not try and second guess her. Communication is a great thing in a friendship so be honest with her and tell her how you feel. If she confuses you then ask her what she meant.
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reader, Sercretive +, writes (28 November 2016):
Sercretive is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the advice and actually I did stay friends with her coz I respect her decision of just being friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2016): She's probably jealous just as a friend. That doesn't mean she wants anything more than to be friends. You're referring to her as a lesbian, and not yourself. She's not some lab rat you can experiment on; and if you're not sure of what you want, don't play with such things.
You are a teenager. There is natural ambiguity in your sexuality. You feel one way today, and another the next.
Too many hormonal changes are going on right now, and your friend is quite sure of who she is. You are still in a state of indecisiveness. It would be a disaster; because you're just curious and trying to find a way to possess her. You want to be her one and only friend. At your age, sexual-orientation is still pretty much up in the air.
I advise you to remain friends, and don't play games with your gay friend. You seem a bit too wishy-washy and don't really seem to understand what being a lesbian is. You don't change into one because your friend is.
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