A
female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:Hello, Im 16 years old and I really like a boy. He broke up with his 3 year old relationship one month ago, and he is trying to "live" his life right now.He does stupid things but not with the mean way. He doesnt care about others feelings as much as he used to..and if someone hurts him he deletes that person from his life. We are a group of friends and he is in that group.Yesterday night we had a sleepover all together at a friends house and at night we were kissing.In the morning we talked a lot and he told me that he knows that I have many problwms in my life and that he doesn't want to play with me. He told me to stay friends and not to tell many people about what happened. I feel uncomfortable to go out with that group of friends and he is in love with an another girl in the group..(I didn't know that before).He also told me not to make a scene if he will do sth with this girl.(I wouldn't anyways) Also our friends and him know that im in love with him.Please tell me what should I do?
View related questions:
broke up, kissing Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 December 2016):
 You should stop kissing him. He is not interested in you, he loves someone else. You need to accept that. If he kisses you it is not because he has feelings for you it is because he is single and wanting fun. So please do not confuse the two. The best thing that you can do for yourself is avoid him.
A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 December 2016):
 I think the BEST thing YOU can do for YOU, is to work on getting over this boy. You may think you "love" him but he isn't exactly treating you in a loving or even kind way. He USED you at the sleepover - he wanted someone to kiss and YOU were willing. Had another girl been there instead of you, he would have kissed her.
So in short, he is an immature selfish prick and YOU can do SO much better.
He doesn't WANT to be with you. He wants another girl, YOU were just conveniently there to mess around with.
Don't let people like him walk all over you because you "think" you love them. THAT is not love.
I know it's not what you want to hear, but I think you already know everything I wrote, just are just a bit blinded by your attraction to him to take it to heart.
...............................
A
female
reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (11 December 2016):
 It seems like you're the OP we advised to avoid this boy.
He's not in love with anyone, or he wouldn't have kissed you. He doesn't care about you, though, as he wouldn't have led you on.
You're not in love because "in love" is mutual. This is a crush and he's encouraged it.
You let go and move on. You understand that this will fade and there will be a guy who won't play with your emotions. I'd suggest not kissing anyone you're not in a relationship with, as it's easy for this to happen.
I'm sorry, OP, but this boy isn't worth it.
...............................
|
