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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My ex and me have been talking again mainly over text after he got back in contact with me. It ended quite badly between us due to him having commitment issues. After 6 months of not speaking he got back in touch and told me that he was ready to be in a relationship and that he regretted us breaking up. Because we hadn't spoken in a long time we agreed to get to know each other again so had been texting every day for about two weeks. We live really near to each other but I've moved back home for Christmas for about a month so we wont see each other. Everything had been going well until he text me asking whether i wanted to be with him or would it be better if me and him just left each other alone. I said that i was wanted to be with him but that it was up to him if he didn't feel the same. He replied saying ok I just needed to ask that question, which i then said i understood but that if he wanted me to go then he could just tell me. I sent that three days ago and he just hasn't replied to me. I don't know if hes ignoring me or is just busy at work. He's usually good at replying, i don't understand how things could change just after asking that one question. Should i text him again just acting normal? i feel like i might be annoying him but i just need to know whats going on.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 December 2016):
 He wasn't ready to commit last time and he is not ready to commit again. Stop allowing him to hurt you. Drop all contact and tell him not to talk to you again.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (13 December 2016):
 I agree.
You already know what's going on. He's clearly NOT that certain about getting back together. He may be fond of you and like having you around in a more relaxed sense, but not quite ready to jump in the deep end.
Of course, he may have things going on in his life. Christmas is approaching, but he's not worried about what conclusions you might draw from his silence.
It's worth noting that he asked you to go out on a limb and confirm your feelings for him BEFORE confirming his for you.
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reader, N91  +, writes (12 December 2016):
 I wouldn't message him if I were you.
HE initiated the contact and now he's decided to go silent. He's supposedly ready for a relationship now so why has he got cold feet? Personally I think he's messing you around. Maybe he's just finished meeting someone else and wants to see if you're still hung up on him.
After all, if he wants to be with you why would he ignore you? Take what he says with a pinch of salt.
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