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Archived questions from: July, 2013 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My girlfriend and I are in love but I am a lesbian and she says she is bisexual and I wasn't her first choice. I don't know if we can fix this.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4128 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am gay and my girlfriend says she is a bisexual - she says she ignored it for fear, don't accept it, even fell in love with her best friend once, but lied to herself -, but today we were talking about it, about her exes (all boys)and I said "I am sorry it wasn't your first ... (98 words)

We broke up but when met up again and had sex. I'm confused about what he wants

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I dumped my ex about three weeks ago. Let me tell you why, he started saying he doesn't know how much longer we would be together because he doesn't like being chained down all the time. I took that as him saying he wants to see other people. I asked him if he wanted to break ... (286 words)

My face is attractive but I'm quite flabby and I'm worried girls would be put off

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - My question is the type usually asked by females, who are generally more unsecure about their bodies. Looking on the internet, it seems from the blogs discussing the male body part that females find attractive, it seems that the great majority of females look at the face, and... (142 words)

I lost my friend to a girl, now they're fighting. Are they likely to break up or patch things up? I want my friend back.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Basically I'm just asking when couples start having arguments to the point where they think about breaking up, does that mean they are likely yto break up or will putting wrong to right make them stronger than ever then make them work? I'm asking as I lost my best bud just un... (546 words)

I'm going abroad for a job, shouls I let him know how I feel for him? I've only met him once but I just know he's specialw

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4127 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm leaving in a month for a job abroad. Should I just tell him how i feel. I took him into consideration but I just feel like I need to move on. He hasn't made a move, we only met once, but I just know what I like. I know what I want and it doesn't take me long to figure ... (207 words)

Is it normal that I've never felt any sort of spark when meeting someone or when in a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Is it normal I've never feel any sort of spark when meeting someone or when in a relationship? I haven't had many serious relationships at all, recently I went on a date a few days ago with someone who seemed perfect for me on paper and who I've really enjoyed messagin... (114 words)

I saw my ex at an event, we didn't speak but he looked emotional and left straight afterwards. Why would he do this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I saw my ex at a recent event. I have not seen him since he broke up with me more than a year ago. I was trembling inside and my knees felt weak when I saw him. He had this emotional look on his face when he saw me. I ignored him and walked away. I just could not handle ... (118 words)

What does it mean that he walked past me and blew in my ear?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4130 days ago

31 July 2013 (?) age 26-29 - Is he being friendly? is he playing? does he like me? what the heck is he doing? If you've read my questions before, this is the same guy. If you have not, that's ok. About three days ago I was just standing in the auditorium looking for someone to talk to that I... (247 words)

I'm happy but overshadowed by jealousy over ex. How do I get past this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex ended our relationship nearly two years ago. We was together 5 years. We were both at fault, but I own up to doing a lot of bad things too. He has ignored me completely and he showed no signs of any grief or jealousy when I met someone else almost immediately. I am on my... (178 words)

What did her text mean? Was it good? Or not so good?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - Hello I,m a 52 year old man , and I,ve just been on a first date with a woman. we had lunch, and at the end of the date, I said can I text or call you and she said yes, but a few hours later, before I texted her to thank her for her company, and ... (217 words)

Can you get an STD if penis was only 1/2 covered by condom?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

31 July 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I will like to know if having sex and you found out that the condom is half way on your penis, can u get infected with std,std like that ... (29 words)

Can my siblings come after me for a decision my mom made on her insurance policy even though it's not my fault?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4130 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid ,I have a question um my mom health is talking an awful turn we don't know how long she will be with us but she made me Power of Attorney over her and I was wondering who do I talk to about is there a (Will) my mom told me that if she passes everything will be ... (133 words)

He's tried to do the right thing but doesn't want her to be hurt more than necessary

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - 4 years ago when I was 18 I met this guy when we started working together, he was 26 at the time. Our job requires us to work away from home; so we spent quite a lot of time together and became close straight away even though he was in a relationship of 3 years. About a y... (389 words)

He said I should pay our bills because I don't have kids

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4126 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello Aunts and Uncles. My boyfriend is always short of money, I have to pay for our all our travel, the whole rent and he pays 1/2 our food. He says he can't afford any more because of maintenance for his daughter who is 8. I do not know what he earns exactly but it is not a ... (171 words)

I am still hung up on a guy on a dating site

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4128 days ago

31 July 2013 (?) age 51-59 - I went back on the dating site a few days ago. It seems like things are still the same. The guy I liked is still on there. It's really weird because just before I closed out my account the order of the guys that viewed me was different when I got back on. He hadn't viewed me ... (404 words)

I want this to be the best date she's ever had! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4125 days ago

31 July 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - So I'm currently on the cusp of something big with a girl I've had a crush on for years. We met when we were 8 and grew up together and all that cliche crap. Fast forward to me actually doing something about it because frankly, I was sick of her complaining about all the ... (197 words)

I need some tips on making my first time more pleasurable so I can relax and seem more like I know what I'm doing

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4123 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm in a very committed relationship.Im at the point where I want to have sex but I'm nervous because I'm a virgin. I just want some tips on what I can do to make it more pleasurable since they say it hurts your first time. I just need some tips that makes it seem at least a ... (66 words)

How do I keep this relationship without having contact with his friends?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - How to tell him that's not what I want? I was on a trip, and met this guy. The way he dressed and acted I didn't know he was so young, 30. I am in my 40s with grown child. We spend couple days together, and on a second day I stayed with him in his hotel, and we had sex... (669 words)

Found out that my ex lives near the home my wife rented. Have made it complicated for myself? What should I do now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, I arrived in US three weeks ago. I'm Indian Muslim . I'm 28. My wife is also 28 Recently, I bumped into my Ex”L” while jogging and she lives just one mile away from my wife house. She was also American and dumped me four years ago. Just after one year, I met... (356 words)

The menace of bullying: Why are kids turning increasingly mean nowadays?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4100 days ago

31 July 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi all. I just finished reading http://www.dearcupid.org/question/traumatic-past-haunting-your-present-and-threatening-your.html and I was wondering why kids can be so mean nowadays? I understand that bullying went on lots when we were younger but it seems to be getting worse ... (63 words)

Any and all advice on different things that would work for lovers with a height difference would be greatly appreciated.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4127 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Aunts and Uncles, My boyfriend and I are high school sweethearts, we've been dating for over two years now and while we've gotten really physical, we haven't had sex yet, although we are ready to. We intend to soon - with protection, we are prepared consenting adults. ... (185 words)

I don't know if I could ever trust again and build the relationship up, which seems like double standards based on my past behavior.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - I'm not quite sure where to start with all of this, so here goes; I've been in a relationship with my partner for 13 years now, and I love her very much, we have three young kids together. About four years ago I discovered that my partner had taken out a huge loan secure... (690 words)

I need advice on how to get over this foolish crush I developed on my boss at my work.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4126 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone I need advice on how to get over this foolish crush I developed on my boss at my work. Ever since I started that job I began to like him. He is the more quiet and serious type that is pretty much all about work. I can't understand why I like him so much I wish he ... (159 words)

My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding for December 2013 but I don't want his friends there.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding for Decenber 2013. The problem is I don't want his friends there. Please advise me on how to handle this. Six months ago (when we were already engaged), he was invited to a wedding without me. I thought this was a major... (347 words)

Is she really busy as she says, or just keeping me on hold?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4116 days ago

31 July 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - There's a girl I really like and know through my summer job. We talk quite a bit and I enjoy her company. We can be really honest with each other, she tells me about things how she felt a bit overwhelmed away at school or goings on in her life, etc. I asked her a while back if ... (490 words)

He is almost the perfect guy but he just wont text!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4125 days ago

31 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - i've been seeing this guy for 3 months now.everything was great. i know he likes me and he knows i like him. we went to several dates. he always holds my hand, hugs me when we are watching movies, always drops me off at my bus stop. in short to me he's perfect when we meet. b... (227 words)

Every day since I came out there is an argument!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4102 days ago

31 July 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm not sure if this is the best place to go but I don't know where to go really. Since I came out 2 years ago things changed completely between my mother and I and its frosty to say the least between us. What happens is that every day there is guaranteed to be an argument b... (198 words)

My mother wants me to buy my own house

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4130 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - This is not a relationship question. As a young adult who has a BA degree and a stable career, would you recommend I put a down payment on a home and buy it or continue to rent? My mother tells me to buy a house so that I can own something and sell it when the market goes... (183 words)

What gives? I have this urge to cheat ...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for close to a year about, and I've always felt, or rather, thought about sleeping with other people, but I guess it's normal to entertain the idea even if you're in a relationship, so long as you don't act on it. Here's the problem: I do... (245 words)

My boyfriend is planning a weekend away with a female friend

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Id like some honest advice from men and women to see if I am just being over jealous or if anyone else would feel the same as me. My boyfriend of a year has a 4 year old girl from a previous relationship. He has lots of female friends which I don't have a problem with but... (340 words)

Happily married men do porn???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4130 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband just came home from a 2 week business trip. I noticed the Internet history on his laptop was full of porn including a site called " F@$ and k women locally" and it gave a web address of our home city. I was so shocked when I went to look at some other sites I ... (102 words)

Tired of being alone in my marriage

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4130 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been feeling really down. I got remarried, everything was really good in the beginning. But now, I do everything. I work two jobs, i watch a baby during the day, and do hair on side. I also have 2 children of my own, and my husband has a daughter. My husband recently got ... (180 words)

He won't give me a straight answer about the break up

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of over two and a half years broke up with me out of the blue recently and he's excuse is that he hasn't been happy and he doesn't know if he can give me 100% in a relationship. But when I ask him questions about what went wrong with us he can't give me a straight ... (139 words)

What are your opinions on pretending to be happy in a broken relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am wondering what your thoughts are for situations like these. A lot of people cannot leave relationships immediately for various reasons...kids,illness, compromises... I am wondering if you guys have ever needed to pretend everything is fine in a relationship? Even ... (75 words)

If a guy 'likes' a photo of a woman in a bikini, does that mean he likes the woman?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - This is likely just me over-thinking things again, but a little input would be lovely anyway :) So, a social media question - I recently put a photo of me in a bikini at the beach on Facebook (which I found tremendously difficult to do. I've had anorexia for the past few year... (331 words)

I'm worried about my boyfriend and his ex, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help about my boyfriend being friends and talking with his ex. Lets call her X. X was his first love and they were together for 2 years. They talked like all day everyday and were always together. She cheated on him and broke his heart and I honestly don't think he h... (277 words)

My friend is trying to get pregnant on purpose. Her b/f doesn't have a clue..do I tell him?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My friends from school (lets call them sarah and matt to make it easier) have been with eachother for 9 years and from what I can see, their relationship is on the rocks. ? sarah confided in me last night that she has stopped taking her contaceptive because she thinks that if ... (132 words)

Can chemistry develop over time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am really in need of some advice. I recently came out of (8months ago) a 5 year on a off relationship with a man that I believe was a narcissist. I think I was somewhat mentally abused but not exactly certain, I am certain that the relationship took a toll on my heart and ... (346 words)

He's gone distant and I'm unsure what to do. He seemed like such a good guy!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok ,I'm totally confused here .I will try and cut a long story short .I net a guy online ,we totally hit it off and I didn't jump into bed with him straight away .I'm very impulsive so it was hard for me .we had a great time and he's always asking planning what we can do next ... (302 words)

Do I stay with someone I am no longer in love with because its a safe option and convenient?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, any advice given would be greatly appreciated. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and 7 months, we got together at the young age of 17. The relationship was obviously a teenage fling at first but now we've grown into our adult years together and it'... (508 words)

Am I emotionally cheating by looking at another guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4130 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, I'm in a relationship with this wonderful guy for 4 months,he loves me,treats me right and takes good care of me! But lately I'v been noticing this other guy who I see around sometimes I found him really cute but I would never approach him,I just think I'm emot... (79 words)

Does anal bleaching cost alot of money?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi this is for men and women to answer... I know other women have this.. Dark brown round their bum hole. I think mine is a bad case. Can men see this when having sex with a woman, does it put them off? Obviously it would have to be specific positions. Is anal bleaching a... (70 words)

Ex blew his chances. Whats the next step?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4128 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago, due to him being a serial cheat. We had been together for 5 months, having a one month break up in the middle. We broke up due to him both sleeping with someone else and sending pictures and flirting with a good portion of his f... (727 words)

Does he want to keep in touch or was he just being polite?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4129 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I haven't seen a friend of mine (who I've known for a few years) in over a year because we're in different parts of the country right now but we do keep in touch over email every so often. He did say to keep in touch and seemed interested in doing so yet I'm a... (341 words)

My friend is chain smoking and it kills me to know what it is doing to him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi one of my male best friends recently started smoking which deeply hurt me, to the point it made me physically agreessive. I'm not an agressive person but its the one thing in th world I hate, more than drugs and all the other awful stuff around here. I have reasons for... (480 words)

What does it mean if your ex continues to wear something you gave them after you've broken up?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4129 days ago

30 July 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - If someone you were once with still wears something you gave them when you were together ands still wears it after you aren't. Do you think they wear it because it's a reminder of you or because it's from you, or do you think they don't think anything of it after and just wear ... (231 words)

What was the meaning behind the message my ex gave me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I was inlove with him but had to end the relationship as I was not happy for a number of reasons. Lack of transparency being one of them. We discussed this and he apologised but I was no longer comfortable and became quite despondent. He's last text message to me was: "you have ... (162 words)

How do I pull myself together enough to keep my job and not worry my grandparents?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - please can someone give me advice on a current situation or atleast help me in some way.. my nan died nearly 4 years ago now and very recently I have come to realise my grandad is now very ill and probably won't see christmas. my nan and grandad are 2 of the most important p... (234 words)

I have strong feelings for my friend but am sexually restricted by my culture. What do her actions mean? What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4120 days ago

30 July 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I am an Arab man (but also a Christian). The rules and traditions in my country told men to treat women except their wives as sisters (with no sexual feelings) and told women not to wear sexy clothes. Of course man and woman can do whatever they want but when they have sex... (1376 words)

Does my ex have feelings for me, or is he just messing with my head?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

30 July 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So this question is about my ex. We dated about 2 years ago for a very short period of time. We went to the same school for 4 years and remained friends after dating. He didn't seem that into me and we were both young. We would still text and flirt and he kissed me a few time... (1082 words)