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writes:Hi everyone I need advice on how to get over this foolish crush I developed on my boss at my work. Ever since I started that job I began to like him. He is the more quiet and serious type that is pretty much all about work. I can't understand why I like him so much I wish he would talk to me and I wish I could show him how I feel. I do like his personality and his looks. He didn't treat me any different than the other employees but I just can't get over him. I know he is divorced and has kids whereas I am single and no kids. I know that there is a pretty big difference in age because I am 22 and is probably 40. I have secretly always been attracted to older men but never told anyone for fear of being judged by everyone. Thank you all so much for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2013): I think its difficult when you have a crush on your boss because everyone automatically frowns upon it. Yet you cant help who you fall for. Sometimes authority is the only reason you find them attractive though so you need to decipher that.
Saying that though i met my partner at work and he was my boss but fortunately we hooked up just a month before he left for a new job so we just kept it between ourselves until then.
The thing about your crush is that he doesnt treat you any different and therefore hasnt given you any signs that he likes you too. And to be honest unless that changes your probably best keeping this to yourself. You dont want it to become awkward at work or for colleagues to be talking about you, so for now I would try and keep this to yourself. If something changes in the future and your boss gives you signs that he likes you too then maybe you could consider doing something about it. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2013): Do your job, stay professional, and keep your crush to yourself. Crushing on your boss is so high-school, and not very mature.
You're getting caught up in your fantasy and you'll lose perspective. He doesn't treat you any different from the other employees; because you're not. Everything you feel is in your head. That's what a crush is.
So try not to embarrass yourself acting like a love-struck teenager chasing an older-man. The crush will fade as soon as you get used to being around him. Take a few cold showers and you'll be good as new.
I'm not trying to be mean. What you feel is a normal, and a natural thing. It's just something you have to be sure you keep under control. This is where you work, not where you play.
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