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writes:please can someone give me advice on a current situation or atleast help me in some way..my nan died nearly 4 years ago now and very recently I have come to realise my grandad is now very ill and probably won't see christmas. my nan and grandad are 2 of the most important people in my life as they played a huge role in my upbringing.i feel my world is falling apart and dont know how to cope.....just thismorning i walked out of work without saying a word to anybody. i know im in trouble but right now i dont care.all i do is cry all day and i havnt spoken to anybody in work as i find it unprofessional to take your personal life into work. what led to me walking out was stupid, one of my superiors pulled me aside and told me i wasnt doing my job properly- i know he is wrong so pretended to be okay but inside i was seething.the main issue here is the way im feeling inside, i can feel my heart breaking slowly and it hurts.how do i pull myself together enough to a) keep my job and b) not worry my grandad?any help is appreciated. thankyou in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2013): Firstly I just want to say that this is really heartbreaking and I'm so sorry you're in this situation. I think the last thing you should do is bottle this all up. Your grandad must know the toll it's taking on you and if you try and put on a brave face and keep your heart completely locked away, youre tainting your last times with your grandad with emotional strain, if that makes any sense? Trust him to open your heart to him because difficult as it is, it'll be worth doing, as your grandad knows you best and will be able to console you. Some people just can't wear their hearts on their sleeves- but i think opening your heart to someone is a very difficult and brave thing to do, amd ive really found truth in that expression "anything worth doing is never easy". There's no shame whatsoever in leaning on those you love for support and opening the gates of your heart to confront that tidal wave of pain. Youre human and breaking down is what we do best... ;) So confront that pain, and lighten the burden of it by sharing the load with people that are part of you. Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2013): Ah bless! thats so sweet. The answer is that you must be strong and pull yourself together. You say that your Grandad might not have long left? So the last thing he needs to see is his favorite grandson mopping about. Make the time you have left count, or you will regret it when its too late. Your world wont fall apart, it will be sad but you will cope. As for your job, you cant expect to keep a job, that you walked out of can you? Again what would your Grandad think??
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