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*TheAlmightyDuckx
writes:Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago, due to him being a serial cheat. We had been together for 5 months, having a one month break up in the middle. We broke up due to him both sleeping with someone else and sending pictures and flirting with a good portion of his female facebook friends. These two months haven't been easy for me, in these two months I have been diagnosed with bipolar and my ex had made the first month hell. He made it hell by just spreading things around, constantly texting me and being nasty and stalkerish. Eventually he succeeded breaking me down to the point where I let him worm his way back in, and incident happened when I was out with friends when I was targarted and made fun of in public due to my bipolar, my mood went down rapidly and I turned to him. From there we started talking, and soon began to become close again, he told me he could help me and I was stupid enough to believe him. For the second month we basically started seeing eachother, trying to some how work out a way we could sort things out, it was a silly risk I took and I lost a lot of friends who had warned me to do otherwise. Things seemed to be going well, he promised me he wasn't talking to anyone else and seemed like he was attempting to sort himself out. Towards the end we started talking about getting back together, but only a few days ago I caught him out and it was revealed he was still talking to other girls. It made me angry and even though we weren't fully together he had made out I was the only one and that he generally wanted to get back with me. I naively thought we could sort it out and said that if he deleted them there could be a chance, he refused however and got angry when I brought it up, it seemed more like he was not willing to sacrifice that little for me. We argued and eventually stopped talking, its been about 2 days now and we have both deleted eachothers numbers and now everything has gone quiet. i'm happy he is out of my life, but I do have major problems with letting people go and now I want to know now what? I don't want to make another mistake again and I do have a tendency to rush into things. So what should I do now I feel kinda stuck without him, so whats the next step?
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (2 August 2013):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ahh thankyou. I know there is no rush, I have just had a bit of a compulsion to have someone there to kind of, well just look after me everyday really and reassure me that somebody loves me.
I'm kind of realizing however that being single isn't so bad, I can do things I want to and I can look around at the same time.
I think that this is a big step and might help me when I do get bored of being single and feel i'm ready to meet someone worth my time for once.
You are welcome to talk to me if you need to as well x
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (2 August 2013):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for the feedback its good to hear what other peoples opinions are on this. I have deleted his number and he is blocked on every single social networking site I have. We haven't spoken since and I am happy now and I feel better by far. Over the last week I have realized that he isn't and never was good for me, I have very low self esteem and I have a huge problem in letting people go, but now I have realized I deserve way better. I don't even miss him that much, and I don't have any desire at all to see him. I have also stopped going down town which is where he hangs out and I have also got rid of people who are associated with him as all they do is stir things up and constantly bring things up which reminds me of him. I have been invited to a party but as he is going I am trying to do the right thing and I am not going. I do feel slightly bad because it seems all I do is make mistakes when it comes to boys, and tbh i'd love to find someone nice and worth the time, but with me it always seems that I find someone who I think the world of and then a month or two down the line they show me a reason why I shouldn't. I am staying away from boys and I am not interested in sex or relationships or anything and I am actually happy now that I have more time for myself. I am going to raise my standards and not drop them for anyone as I know now that I deserve way better than any of my previous relationships. Thankyou btw, I read the article and I did find it helpful, thankyou to everyone who commented on this and I believe for once I may be getting better at letting people who are no good for me go :)
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reader, LivingWithBadDecisions +, writes (31 July 2013):
 Read this ~ http://www.dearcupid.org/question/traumatic-past-haunting-your-present-and-threatening-your.html its by iamheretohelpyou and i think it may help you with your new bipolar diagnosis and letting people go ectcetra
he was a class a bum and you just need to never believe anything he says ever again
try to get your friends back and dont bother with any dudes for a while
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2013): What now you ask, well you just carry on with your life and dont have any contact with him again as he obviously just upsets you and intends to speak and flirt with other women so forget him and ignore him should he get in touch with you again.
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