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writes: Hello I,m a 52 year old man , and I,ve just been on a first date with a woman. we had lunch, and at the end of the date, I said can I text or call you and she said yes, but a few hours later, before I texted her to thank her for her company, and hopefully, arrange a second date . She texted me , and said . Thank you for lunch, ( my name) it was lovley to meet you Xx . Does this mean she is not interested, and she does,nt want anymore contact ? Or should I wait a few days and send her a text, to ask to meet her again ? I think she could see I was nervous, but I was just being nice, I,ve not had much experience with women . Thank you
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reader, ok guy +, writes (1 August 2013):
ok guy is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (1 August 2013):
 p.s. don't leave it a few days to reply to her - or it'll seem YOU'RE not interested. Maybe think of something she said she liked doing (particular food/ restaurant/ activity) and suggest it for the weekend?
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reader, llifton  +, writes (1 August 2013):
 it's a good thing, for sure. it shows she took the initiative to contact you and talk. believe me, if a woman doesn't like you or isn't interested, she would NOT go out of her way to text you. she would avoid you at all cost. you've got the green light.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (1 August 2013):
At your age your too old to play games. She is interested.
Text her back and ask her out. That is the only way you are ever going to know!
Have fun!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (1 August 2013):
 Dude yes!! Initiate a second date. In fact plan it then tell her. Dont go overboard tho or gun ho on her. Women love that.
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reader, ok guy +, writes (31 July 2013):
ok guy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hello Thank you for your answer,s, they have lifted my confidence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2013): I can only speak for myself, when I've done that it means yes I'm interested. I don't like it when you don't hear from a man for days or a week, I like to know if they liked me or not, and if you did like her don't wait to ask her out. You should ask ahead of time for the weekend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2013): Ask her out dude! No-one would initiate contact with someone they were not interested in would they? I think she's trying to get the ball rolling with a second date and that was her opener. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2013): I personally think she is interested and that is her way of trying to initiate contact with you. Why not text her back saying something like 'it was nice to meet you too, do you fancy doing it again sometime?' I don't think she would text you first only to blow you off. It's hard to tell someone you are not interested so if that was the case I don't think she would have contacted you at all in the hope she could avoid it. Oh and I wouldn't wait a few days either, if you like her then be bold and go after her :)
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (31 July 2013):
I don't interpret that text as her being disinterested. I mean, why would she put "xx" at the end of the text if she wasn't interested?
It's worth texting her and saying something like "it was lovely to meet you too, would you like to meet up again?" .... and then I suggest you switch to phone calls rather than texting, because texting is too ambiguous.
Good luck, hope there's a second date!
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reader, Intrigued3000 +, writes (31 July 2013):
 I'm not a big texter and usually I would send a text like this (short and sweet) to someone I am interested in, but I don't want to sound overly excited, in case he does not feel the same way.
If I'm not interested in someone, I either do not text / communicate with them or if they communicate with me first, I let them know that it's not going to work out between us.
I think she's interested, so ask her out again.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 July 2013):
 I think you should evaluate how she acted at lunch rather than dwell on her text. "reading voice and face is much more reliable than mere symbols on a phone screen. If you felt at the time that she was having a good time,etc. then ask her out again but don't have anxiety over a text message. good luck.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 July 2013):
 It doesn't sound like she is overly interested, but it could be she is not big on texting and it can also be hard to interpret a text from someone you don't know.
SO, if YOU want to ask her out again, why not do so? She might say yes, she might say no, but at least you will know where you stand.
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reader, Eng_vice +, writes (31 July 2013):
I thought it reads coy but positive. She is trying to not go over the top. Looks like a 2nd date will be accepted.
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reader, Dataluke +, writes (31 July 2013):
 Her tone certainly does seem a tad dismissive to me, but there is only one sure way of knowing.
Wait a day or so and ask her out again, if she refuses or says she has other plans then I'd say leave it, she probably isn't interested.
All the best, Dataluke
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