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writes:I'm leaving in a month for a job abroad. Should I just tell him how i feel. I took him into consideration but I just feel like I need to move on. He hasn't made a move, we only met once, but I just know what I like. I know what I want and it doesn't take me long to figure it out. Im very assertive with men. I dont know if that is scary to them but I just wana do it. Even if that means that nothing will happen, I just want him to know how blessed I was to have met him. Does that sound crazy? Met a guy once and I just know? I've gone on soooo many dates and I've met so many men but I have never felt this way before! I'm not infatuated either. I'm being practical. However, I do not know him fully but I know I liked him enough to start a relationship. But he never initiated seeing me again so I'm taking this job, but I just want him to know how I feel. Is that crazy? I'm not going abroad forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think I've over fantasized him in my head. I tried not to before meeting him because he looked so good in pics so I assumed he was a douche. But I was surprised by how sweet he was in person, and also how much better looking he was, so I did start fantasizing about him as being perfect. He's good looking, same religious background, same values, wants kids, stunning face and body, my parents would approve. And honestly, I'm on a husband hunt because my parents are pressurizing me. But you are right, I do not know this guy. Just because he was nice once doesn't mean anything. Its just hard because he was so nice and soooooo beautiful! Maybe I'm being shallow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2013): If he's that 1 true love in a million, and you've met him by incredible coincidence, then surely fate must exist right...so it's predestined whether you'll be together or not... Lol (joke)..! ;p;)
Don't over-think it or romanticise it too much, just ask for his contact details, see if you can keep a friendship going abroad? If he doesn't reciprocate or respond to contact, then he's just not interested. For all you know he could be an utter loser, or have a gf.
Seriously I'm sorry but there is NO WAY you can know what kind of person he is from one meeting. He could be a really great actor... I've got very hung up about people I've met really briefly before and it's just not worth it.
Good luck xx :)
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (1 August 2013):
I think you should tell him you would be interested in persuing a realtionship upon your return. What I mean by relationship is a friendship. You have only been out with him once so I think you need to be realistic. You are also going away for a month....a lot can happen in a month. Maybe ask if he would be interested in exchanging emails/text messages and the odd phone call. I don't think you should go over board or you just might scare this guy away.
Good luck!
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