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writes:I need help about my boyfriend being friends and talking with his ex. Lets call her X.X was his first love and they were together for 2 years. They talked like all day everyday and were always together. She cheated on him and broke his heart and I honestly don't think he has ever gotten over it, he was in complete shock about it. They broke up about 8-9 months ago. When he got together with another girl after his break up with X, he admitted to me that he was still in love with X. This was about 4 months ago. Me and him got together just a few weeks ago and I'm already just having doubts and worried sick about this ex of his. I know they talk on skype and other online sites, I just don't know how often they talk, and what they talk about, and that is what worries me. There have been a few days now where he acts a bit weird and doesn't talk to me much and is sort of distant when he is online and I automatically think it's because he's too busy talking to his ex.A part of me says I'm overreacting and I should just trust him and deal with this but another part of me says wow, this sounds like a serious problem and maybe I should get out now before I could possibly end up getting hurt.Has anyone ever dealt with something like this? What should I do?
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reader, llifton +, writes (31 July 2013):
 well he did confide in you that he was still in love with his ex while he was with another girl. so it doesn't sound unreasonable to have concerns now that you are his girlfriend. can you communicate this with him? it doesn't have to be an accusation or argument. just a calm, rational discussion. mention your feelings and explain why you feel them (his confession about his feelings, previously, while in a relationship). if he can't have an adult conversation about it, i'd say you have this gut feeling for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2013): Time to go. I'd tell him if he's still in love with her--which he is, because you don't chat and skype with an ex that BROKE YOUR HEART unless you still have feelings. He doesn't sound worth it his mind is obviously elsewhere. Find someone who wants you as much as you want them.
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