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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:HiI haven't seen a friend of mine (who I've known for a few years) in over a year because we're in different parts of the country right now but we do keep in touch over email every so often. He did say to keep in touch and seemed interested in doing so yet I'm always the one initiating contact and he takes a few weeks to respond (I know he is far busier than I am and has other priorities so I certainly don't expect immediate replies). However, when he does reply, he seems interested in the conversation.As I do come back to my hometown (where he is based) quite regularly, I thought I could see him in person one of the times I come back. Over two months ago, I asked him when he was free so we could meet up, telling him I would come and see him so he doesn't have to travel or anything. He responded a few weeks later yet he completely ignored the question and asked me something else. I responded and again he emailed a few weeks later, telling me about some stuff happening with him yet not even mentioning anything about meeting up. From his emails it seemed like he wanted to keep in touch yet he doesn't want to see me for whatever reason. Again I know he's busy but he could have just said 'Sorry I'm busy at the moment but I'll let you know when I'm free' or acknowledged that I asked him in some way. The fact that he ignored it feels a little humiliating and I'm not sure whether I should ask again in case he just ignores it again.This is someone whose company I enjoy very much but I'm wondering if I should bother to keep in touch? Does he even want me to or was he just being a nice person by responding even when he didn't really want to? Reply to this Question
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reader, answerfromtheheart  +, writes (2 August 2013):
 Hi,
based on what you described, it seems to me that he is one of those very rare men who are polite and know that a girl's feelings could get hurt when someone she likes doesn't quite feel the same way.
I think it's his way of telling you that he is ok with chatting through email once in a while (because obviously answering your email is not on top of his to-do list)but he is not really interested in getting together.
Basically what that means is that he likes you as a person but doesn't want to lead you on to thinking that he is interested in anything more.
hope this helps
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