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writes:Hey everyone!I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year now, we are both 18 and I have some worries. My girlfriend likes to go out and have fun, go clubbing, go to party's and what not and I really do get worried when she is out clubbing but not when she is at a party. She went to an all girls school so they are mostly girls at the party. Now she had said something to me awhile ago and I just brushed it off like I have been doing with everything else, but all of a sudden it has hit me pretty hard. One night she had come over for dinner and once we finished dinner we had gone into my bedroom. As I was sitting on the bed she had walked in with her head down and said " I've done something wrong" and I replied with what? ( getting all mad because I had no idea)She then said " I hooked up with another guy the other night when I went clubbing" I straight away got angry and kept saying " are you serious?" she sounded like she actually did it but then quickly said she was joking and jumped me, and told me she was sorry that she was only joking as she could see I was very angry. As I am, I let it go and just said " don't ever do that to me again it scared the crap out of me"Now, my girlfriend knows that I don't like it when she goes clubbing because I can never know what happens even though she goes with a group of girls which is safe you can never tell what is going to happy because you aren't there. I'm more scared about the people around her that are in the club than what she would do. But you can just never know what can happen.Am I over thinking this? or is this something that everyone else would be worried about to? It is really getting to me.. Thanks.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (8 January 2013):
 She's a liar, a cheat, cannot be trusted and has no integrity.
WALK AWAY with no contact. If she tries to contact you tell her "I'm busy". It'll kill you inside but you have to WALK.
It's already over. Just a matter of time. This will eat you up until you go mad and then leave or she'll leave. Better to do the dumping than be dumped.
Find a girl you can trust. This one can't be trusted.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 January 2013):
 sorry but that is NOT something to joke about
how about you say "i have to tell you something..."
and when she says "what?" you say 'I have to break up with you for hooking up with some other guy"
Just KIDDING.
I don't believe her. I think she did hook up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2013): If I tell her not to go clubbing anymore, even though she knows I don't like it, then she is going to tell me I'm to controlling, which is true because I'm not the type of guy to restrict her to not do what she wants.Thanks for the comment though!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2013): Personally I completely understand what's going through your mind. I think you should get it off your chest and say something. Tell her you'd rather her not go, explain how it's not her that it's other people you don't trust. A joke can lead to extreme paranoia, trust me I know the feeling. Best of luck ~ Tys
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