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writes:i'm in a relationship with a girl i love.my problem is i want sex too much.we do everything everywhere and have sex once everyday for at least two hours. sumtimes i have to masterbate a couple of times around this.she recently told me she wont say no to me but shes broken.she offered me a f-buddy to take sum of the strain away from her.i have all that i want but i want less for her.is there sumthing i can take becausei've tried but i cant do without.f-buddies are no good because i feel to much for this girl and consider that cheating wouldnt let her do it why should i?she needs your help more than me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (8 January 2013):
 This is a joke and I am not even going to bother replying.
Even the language used is that of a kid rather than a grown man.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (7 January 2013):
 Your girlfriend might be quite happy with sex every say if it wasn't a two hour marathon each time! She must be exhausted, not to mention sore. Can't you make do with quickies now and then?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2013): Hi Pikk,Well, I would suggest that you convert some of the sexual energy into something else. If you use some of the time on something else than sex, you might find a new activity you like. Plus your girlfriend will be happy with you. Win-win :).My libido drops when I'm really busy and spend my energy on other things, maybe that will help you too.I would suggest that when you feel too horny, you do demanding but sexually unrelated things.For instance, sports. During sex, your body releases dopamine, which makes you feel good. But you can release dopamine through exercise as well. Don't choose an easy sport where your mind can wander, but a sport that takes all your concentration. Like a martial arts class, or climbing class, sailing, ping pong, squash, badminton, soccer.. just something you like that really keeps your mind on the task.You could also start another hobby, e.g. volunteer work, gardening, cooking, learning a language - ok, please guys, if you start laughing at me now, these things help me when I'm too horny and have no one to get freaky with.I found that masturbation or other things like watching porn don't really help to lower sex drive, they rather keep it up. That's why I make these suggestions.I hope that helped :)And I also think the f*buddy thing would not solve the problem, but make things more complicated over time.If you really can't help the horniness, grant each other some spare time. So maybe she can start a weekly night out with her girlfriends, where you have to deal with your hormones yourself. Or you can start a poker night with friends so she has some quiet time.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (7 January 2013):
 I think your problem will be solving itself in the next few years just hang on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 January 2013):
 Deep sigh... sex two hours a day? EVERY DAY?
wow. even with my high sex drive that would kill me.
let's see: up at 7 am
at work at 8 am
home at 5 pm
dinner at 6 pm
bedtime at 9 pm
sex from 9-11
watch the news and eat ice cream
sleep
or:
up at 5:30
sex for an hour
shower and prep for work
work 8-5
home at 5:30
dinner at 6
relax from 7-9
sex from 9-10
sleep
when do you have time to get anything else done?
she doesn't need our help more than you do... if you can't see that demanding sex for two hours DAILY from a partner is a bit much.
She sounds very considerate of your needs. And you loving her, need to be considerate of hers.
Have you discussed your abnormally high (at your age it's abnormally high) sex drive and need for orgasm with your doctor? Have they run hormonal tests to determine if all is well?
It's funny my hubby and I were talking about something similar yesterday and his comment was that if I was not available or interested masturbation served him just fine.
As it does me.
that's what committed people do when in a relationship where the partner is not available for whatever reason.
either that or end the relationship and find someone more compatible
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 January 2013):
 You have a situation that most guys would envy.... AND, it's noble that you don't want to consider the F-buddy arrangement that G/F has suggested....
IF you would like to supress your s*xual cravings, I suggest that you carry around a photograph of someone like Nancy Pelosi.... and, every/any time you get horny, pull it out and look at it. THAT should cool you down for 45 minutes or more.....
Good luck....
P.S. Put the picture in one of those plastic sealer/ protectors.... 'cuz - from the sound of it - if you don't, you're going to have the thing all dog-eared and tattered in short order!!!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 January 2013):
Tisk tisk such drama...I assume you work out of your home...daily two hour sex huh?
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